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Celebrating The Body Erotic For Women

She is in that part of her life where she is hungering for something that will not only recharge her batteries, give her life purpose, provide her with adventure, but she is also wanting that “something more” to fill her piggy bank. What is new, at least to me, is that she often starts this journey by connecting the dots to the understanding that “getting there” might have something to do with her own relationship to her body and her sexuality.

I see these women as resilient explorers setting out on an odyssey to live the second or third part of their life – full court, with no excuses for their desires. Not only that, they are reaching for their desires and their sexuality as a power source as never before. In my coaching practice, I call these women my “Women in Full” and they are showing up more and more every day.

These intrepid explorers are signing up for workshops, exploring “hands on sexual healing,” sacred spot work, and even activities such as pole, burlesque and tango dancing as a way to not only discover what has been locked up inside them – but as a path to continue to fuel their sexual engines.

They are reaching for the thread and needle, and bravely trying to knit themselves a new relationship with their bodies. It’s as if they intuitively know that if they can figure this piece out – all the rest of it will come together. They are willing, ready and able to jump in head first into whatever seems to them to offer the opportunity to teach them the answer to their own divine sexy selves.

Maybe they had to wait until they were aged properly. Perhaps there is some kind of magic button that goes off in a woman somewhere in early mid life that says “Honey, what are you waiting for? Isn’t it time to find out who you really are? Isn’t it time to stop feeding everybody else and start looking inside of you?”

These women are seeking way more than erotic encounters. That is not what they are after. The women who I have sat next to at these workshops are on a sacred journey to source their inner divinity through their sexual identity. The Chasity belts are off, and they are finally being invited to look inside themselves. They are playing for keeps, and are ready to open their hearts and even drop their shorts.

These women are in transition and ready to birth themselves now. They want to find out everything there is to know about being a woman in full because they know that somehow it’s here, inside themselves that they will find the key to their personal quest for mid life transformation.

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Pamela Madsen

Pamela Madsen is an Integrative Life Coach Specializing In Women's Issues: Sexuality, Fertility, Body Image, Wellness and Rejuvenation. Pamela is also author of the best selling memoir Shameless (Rodale, Jan 2011), and founder of The American Fertility Association.Her websites and her daily blog,, are a breakfast essential for reporters, writers and policymakers.


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8:24AM PDT on Mar 17, 2013

Noted , thanks.

2:46AM PST on Jan 31, 2013

thanks for sharing

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10:01AM PDT on May 19, 2012

Smiles! But is forty old?

1:28PM PST on Feb 4, 2012


5:44PM PST on Jan 7, 2012

That is interesting. What kind of things are done in the workshop? Is it like an exercise thing (like the picture implies) or is it talking, a combination?

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2:37AM PST on Jan 5, 2012

Great article. Thanks

1:09PM PST on Jan 3, 2012


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