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Childfree Adults: Three Subtypes

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Childfree Adults: Three Subtypes

Childfree Adultsó Not All Are Alike: Three Subtypes Explored

I recently blogged on misconceptions about childfree adults, many of which are unflattering. †Such misconceptions lead to typical stereotyping in which a group of people is treated as a whole, as if they were all exactly the same.† The reality is that childfree adults are as varied as any other category of men and women, but when listening to their stories, three subtypes rise to the surface. Read on to decide where you fit in.

Childfree by Choice

There’s a whole subset of childfree adults who insist that they have always known they didn’t want to have kids. Oh, sure, there may have been an occasional thought that they should, because of pressure from friends or family or not wanting to be a misfit, but deep inside the desire to parent has never presented itself.

One woman I interviewed shared that she had these definitive thoughts as a young teen, and she told me that when she was in her early twenties she began to talk to her physicians about having her tubes tied. She wasn’t able to find a doctor who would perform the procedure on her until she reached her thirties. She insisted that all through the years, she never once shifted from her position. Instead of becoming a mom, she’s adopted several dogs and has had the opportunity to work in a challenging career that allows her to travel. This lifestyle would not have been a good fit for motherhood.

Many childfree by choice adults surround themselves with friends who are also childfree. They, as a whole, are independent and enjoy having control over their lives.

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Dr. Ellen Walker

Dr. Walker is a licensed clinical psychologist born and raised in Jackson, Mississippi. Recognizing that there is no one type of childfree adult, Walker guides clients through the positive and negative aspects of childfree living, taking into consideration the different issues faced by men or women, couples or singles, whether gay or straight. She has a clinical practice in Bellingham, Washington. She and her psychologist husband, Chris, enjoy an adventure-filled life with their two terriers, Bella and Scuppers. Learn more on her website 


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8:22AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

Yes, there are many options in life and many people have fascinating life journeys. Some women travel a path where they have no children and this is fine while there are women who have children who are unfit parents. There are no absolutes in life and while there are some in society whom have negative opinions about childless women it is best to be flexible in life. If one chooses not to have children that is fine.

12:47PM PDT on Jul 18, 2012

Thanks, interesting stuff!

9:20AM PDT on Jun 21, 2012


8:35PM PDT on May 30, 2012

I am childfree by circumstance. I am unable to have children so my two cats are seen as no different than a mother views her children. I do not differentiate between people and animals...I see them as the same.

10:43AM PDT on May 18, 2012

Childfree by choice, no regrets. Also, even if I had changed my mind, all 3 of my husbands had vasectomies before I met them, after having enough kids in previous relationships.

12:35AM PDT on May 4, 2012

Thanks for the article.

9:57PM PDT on May 3, 2012

Child free and no regrets. Have a life rich with family, friends and a great pet. I am content and often pity those with children and the heartaches and hinderence they have brought.

2:42PM PDT on May 3, 2012

No kids. No regrets.

12:14PM PDT on May 3, 2012

I am child-free by choice and I love it.

10:55AM PDT on May 3, 2012

thanks =D

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