Childfree Adultsó Not All Are Alike: Three Subtypes Explored
I recently blogged on misconceptions about childfree adults, many of which are unflattering. †Such misconceptions lead to typical stereotyping in which a group of people is treated as a whole, as if they were all exactly the same.† The reality is that childfree adults are as varied as any other category of men and women, but when listening to their stories, three subtypes rise to the surface. Read on to decide where you fit in.
Childfree by Choice
There’s a whole subset of childfree adults who insist that they have always known they didn’t want to have kids. Oh, sure, there may have been an occasional thought that they should, because of pressure from friends or family or not wanting to be a misfit, but deep inside the desire to parent has never presented itself.
One woman I interviewed shared that she had these definitive thoughts as a young teen, and she told me that when she was in her early twenties she began to talk to her physicians about having her tubes tied. She wasn’t able to find a doctor who would perform the procedure on her until she reached her thirties. She insisted that all through the years, she never once shifted from her position. Instead of becoming a mom, she’s adopted several dogs and has had the opportunity to work in a challenging career that allows her to travel. This lifestyle would not have been a good fit for motherhood.
Many childfree by choice adults surround themselves with friends who are also childfree. They, as a whole, are independent and enjoy having control over their lives.
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