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Desperate for Love?

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Desperate for Love?

Is putting yourself out there in the world and making a conscious effort to look for a life partner being desperate? Unfortunately, that is the perception sometimes, although not in my book. It seems that if you choose to do something out of the norm, like going to a conference or an event that would attract either men or women for the sole purpose of putting yourself out there to meet someone is taboo.  I strongly disagree!

Since when was going after what you wanted considered desperate?  It takes a tremendous amount of courage to stand up in our world of being independent and state that you are ready to find love in your life. I am talking about doing this from a strong, centered place of knowing who you are and having the desire to share your life with someone.  There are far too many critics out there who are jaded from their own experiences that label this as “desperate.” And, if you are a little desperate, what is wrong with that? Sometimes our desperation can shake something up inside of us into finally taking action. You just need to be very consciously aware of the choices you are making.

Personally, I had lived alone for over 20 years and looked at my life and realized that I could do the rest of it alone, or figure out a way to heal my own dysfunctional patterns in relationships and get out there and find someone who is a fit for me.  This is exactly what I did. I was on a mission and I proudly claimed to all my friends that I was interested in getting serious about someone.  I put myself out there, went to events, and did the internet dating sites….where I did meet my beloved husband.

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Liz Dawn Donahue

Liz Dawn Donahue was recently married after years of dating. She is the CEO of Mishka Productions whose signature event Celebrate Your Life, brings together people from all over the world to assist in raising the consciousness of the planet. CelebrateYourLife.ORG


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3:54AM PST on Jan 24, 2011

Great post - you might be interested in this site called 'The Science of Attraction'. Between all the rubbish games matching people's names and all the dating websites with inaccurately portrayed and even fake user accounts, it can be tough to meet new people and find someone you actually want to spend time with. And it's even tougher to work out what people are attracted to.

This series looks at how voice, behaviour, fashion and so on influence the way people perceive one another. It would be interesting to hear what people think about it:

1:02AM PST on Jan 10, 2011

Great Article.. Proud of you!!

3:19PM PST on Dec 30, 2010

I am a firm believer in being very conscious of what I want, then doing what is necessary to achieve whatever that is. The key is to be very clear in your own mind about what you want. Sounds like Liz did just that.

1:35PM PST on Dec 28, 2010

helpful, encouraging post. thank you!

12:32AM PST on Dec 27, 2010

Noted, thanx

7:42PM PST on Dec 26, 2010

Encouraging for this rather lonely lesbian.

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