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Six Ways to Develop Kindness Towards Yourself

Six Ways to Develop Kindness Towards Yourself

People often find some difficulty in caring for themselves, in receiving love, in believing they deserve to be happy. Developing care towards ourselves with the power of concentration is the first objective, the foundation for later being able to include others and finally all of life in the sphere of kindness. Try these ways:

1. Spend some time consciously reflecting on the good you’ve done, or a good quality you have.

2. Remember a time you made a mistake. What qualities help you learn to act differently? What qualities stifle the creative urge to change?

3. If you see anger, fear, or similar states arising in your mind, and you find yourself reacting to them as “bad” or “wrong,” purposefully translate that response to “painful” or “suffering.” See what changes.

4. Reflect on what the middle way might look like for you in a particular endeavor, relationship, or challenge.

5. Devote some time each day to self-care. Can you spend 15 or 20 minutes doing something to be kind to yourself?

6. Develop and practice lovingkindness meditation for yourself.

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Adapted from The Force of Kindness, by Sharon Salzberg (Sounds True, 2005). Copyright (c) 2205 by Sharon Salzberg. Reprinted by permission of Sounds True.
Adapted from The Force of Kindness, by Sharon Salzberg (Sounds True, 2005).

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2:32AM PDT on Mar 14, 2013

Thank you :)

10:19AM PDT on Sep 3, 2012

thank you, it is so important to love yourself.. my mum has taught me that.. it took her around 5 years :P

11:33AM PDT on Sep 1, 2012

Great article. Makes you think. Thank-you.

11:33AM PDT on Sep 1, 2012

good ideas

3:29AM PDT on Jun 16, 2010

Thanks very much for this.

3:57AM PDT on Jun 7, 2010

Wonderful article. Thank you Annie!!

3:10PM PDT on Jun 6, 2010

Thanks you.

9:09AM PDT on May 26, 2010

everyone, please sign and share:

i'd really appreciate it.

12:27AM PDT on May 21, 2010

thanks for post

3:37PM PDT on May 20, 2010

Lovely, but the term junky as applied to Mexican food was potentially hurtful.

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