Dining Out With Food Allergies: Is It Safe To Assume…Anything?

Years ago, maybe I should say decades ago because it was sometime in the mid-90s, I was out for a festive dinner in NYC with a sizable group of 20-somethings. The memorable part of the evening was not the food, so much as the ordering. Two of the diners in our group had very specific dietary requests – one involving a nut allergy and the other one requesting an all vegan meal. Mind you, as much as vegetarians were in vogue at this time, accommodating vegans and those with nut allergies was yet to be a thing. While the bulk of us were just ordering off the menu, our two “problem” diners were served up a lot of eye rolls and deep sighs from our waiter before their tailored meals arrived from the kitchen. Nothing like being the high maintenance table on a busy Saturday night.

In the contemporary dining realm of 2011, such requests are nearly commonplace with vegetarian, vegan, non-dairy, and even gluten-free options often printed right on the menu – thus creating a margin of acceptance for those with dietary restrictions (or inclinations). Still supply doesn’t always remain in lock step with demand as the number of dietary restrictions and predilections that abound. It is not enough for a dish to be gluten-free if the gluten free onion rings were fried in the same oil as the glutinous onion rings (a case of cross contamination). Also there has been such a rapid increase in the number of diners who identify themselves as allergic or intolerant to any number of things including, all forms of dairy, vinegar, wheat, nightshade vegetables, citrus, certain vegetable oils, coconut oil, seeds, etc. It has gotten to the point that many diners, who struggle with food allergies/intolerances travel with little laminated cards that could be handed over to the server, and then passed on to the kitchen, listing their culinary dos and don’ts.

Some restaurants have been more than accommodating, whereas others just can’t be bothered to cater to such specialty requests (like David Chang’s restaurant Momofuku Ko in NYC). With only about an estimated 6% of the population actually suffering from food allergies (a larger percentage deals with issues of food intolerance, which is not dangerous or life threatening but does make for some unpleasant digestive issues) some restaurants simply don’t want to deal with the culinary gymnastics required to deliver a truly allergen-free meal – not to mention the liability issue with serving up something that may have a trace of the dreaded allergen. The nature of some dietary requests, being so specific, that a full scrub down of the kitchen would be in order to assure a risk-free meal. Instead, some restaurants kindly refuse to play ball.

And to be frank, some people just don’t take the food allergy/intolerance thing all that seriously. Some people in the food industry quietly assume that many of the most demanding customers in this category simply use the allergy card to avoid getting an unpleasant food on their plate (I knew a woman who claimed she was allergic to shrimp her whole life in order to avoid having to eat them). That said, is it safe to assume that food ordered in a restaurant is what the server says it is, or isn’t? Is it too much for us to saddle restaurants with the responsibility of accommodating our very specific dietary requirements? Are we asking too much, or are they providing too little?


Howard Crosse
Howard Crosse2 years ago

I really feel for people with severe food allergies, it must be really limiting. For my part I have a serious allergic reaction to tartrazine (a yellow/orange colourant sometimes used to colour food). Thankfully it isn't quite as common these days but I still avoid eating in Indian restaurants as it is sometimes used to colour rice dishes.

Terry V.
Terry V.3 years ago


Molly S.
Molly S.3 years ago

It may not be that restaurants do not take food allergies seriously but more a question that they cannot accommodate and maintain their culinary integrity, e.g. vegan or Asian restaurants.

LMj Sunshine

Thank you for info.

LMj Sunshine

Thank you for info.

a             y m.
g d c.4 years ago

some people don’t take food allergies & intolerance seriously...

Evelyn M.
Evelyn M.4 years ago

My daughter-in-law and granddaughter are extremely chemical sensitive; consequently they can only eat food they purchase thru co-ops and prepare themselves. They cannot eat dinner at my house (including Xmas) without bringing their own food. I really miss being able to go out to lunch with my granddaughter.

Nicole B.
Nicole Bergeron4 years ago

sadly, a lot of places where I live don't make things from scratch so I usually can order only steak and potatoes with a side of corn, since I don't know if soy is in the processed foods they use, and the steak is ordered to be seasoned with salt and pepper only since many store bought pre-mixed spices have soy has a preservative, never have gravy since i don't know where it comes from/how it is made/what is in it.

really boring after awhile

Molly S.
Molly S.4 years ago

If someone is so allergic that they become annual tic, they need to prepare their own meals and cannotvexpectva restaurant kitchen to completely change their way of preparing to accommodate one single customer. Sorry if that sounds harsh but in general the allergy community seems to feel very, very entitled and ego centric.

Kat K.
Kat K.4 years ago

True food allergies are quite rare. All this 'I can't eat bread, I can't eat certain veg, I'm allergic to spices.' A lot of it is just trying to be with the 'in' crowd. If you're sick after a meal. it doesn't mean your allergic or intolarent to something in in, it usually means you ate/drank to much! Usually the later. How come you never hear of these things in third world countries. (Like so-called ME!)