The supermarket. Mind: Why don’t they have more cashiers? They keep us standing here like cattle—they know we have busy lives. And the prices you have to pay! They’re just greedy. That incompetent mother can’t keep her kid’s hands off the candy—someone should teach the brat a lesson (head shaking, blood pressure rising). Heart: I really didn’t plan this right. The checker looks like she’s been working twelve hours—I’ll send her some care and a smile. Let me find a good magazine on the news rack I can read while I’m waiting.
In the Mind examples, judgments and reactions are in control and you feel justified being judgmental and angry. The Heart, though, is decidedly different – softer and simpler. It might take courage to listen to your heart because what it suggests often seems too easy. It might say, “Just let it go” or “It’s no big deal,” and you may be afraid you’re going to let someone get away with something or that the other person is going to walk all over you. It’s like two different radio stations, the mind and the heart. When you tune into the heart station, your attitude adjusts and you find responses that are much more satisfying to you and better for the whole.
As I have learned to balance my emotional nature and clear unresolved issues by listening to my heart and practicing heart qualities of self-compassion, compassion for others, forgiveness, appreciation and kindness, I have progressively been able to distinguish intuitive heart feelings from my mental and emotional preferences.
The way to most effectively tune into your heart intuition is by first getting into heart rhythm coherence by practicing these heart qualities that align the mind with the heart.
The Heart Lock-In technique is designed to help you generate and sustain coherence and distinguish the difference between your head voice and your heart:
Shift your attention to the area of your heart and breathe slowly and deeply.
Activate and sustain a genuine feeling of appreciation or care for someone or something in your life.
Radiate these feelings of care and appreciation toward yourself and others for five minutes or longer.
When you catch your mind wandering, simply refocus your attention on the heart area and reconnect with feelings of care and appreciation or other heart qualities. Notice how this extended radiation of care has affected your body, emotions and thinking. As you complete your Heart Lock-In, be receptive to your heart’s intuitive guidance. Is there anything your heart would like you to know in this moment? Write down whatever you quietly sense.
It is nature’s design that you get your head in sync with your deeper heart intent. You can find a new type of fun in listening to your heart as your command center. The fun is gaining back your power not to go back to the mechanical way—the old way of the head. When you do fall back, you replace feeling bad about it with feeling compassion for yourself. Compassion will quickly shift you back into coherence. You stop wasting your energy judging yourself or others. You stop those painful feelings churning inside. You release your own energy and power to do the things that matter most to you. You preserve your health and promote happiness in your relationships. While things still will happen that are extremely unfair or unkind and cause painful feelings, you choose how you are going to handle your emotions. Your choices make all the difference.