I just want to thank everyone for their support because it really makes me feel as though so many people understand what I and so many other men and women are going through today and for many years ahead.

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I was very lovable before my brother-in-law raped me then I turned into a totally different person of which my family noticed but never asked me what was wrong.
My father was very ill from a stroke and my brother-in-law did everything for my mother but I was the payment and it went on for nine (9) years starting at the age of twelve (12) to the age of twenty-one (21) when I got married he finally stopped but ran into the priesthood for pertection thinking I would talk but I never did because he told me that if I talked he would kill my family starting with my mother and let me watch.
I lost my family many friends and good jobs and my first husband because I was like an animal with a horrible temper to keep people away from me always afraid of what he told me.
It took me years and years to get help and the only reason I got help was because I was going to lose my second husband.
Not until I got help did I even know what he did effected me in such large degrees. As the person told me I was the rape and the rape was me and I was like in my private war and I could tell nobody what happened to me.
When I finally told my family my middle sister told me I was a liar and the sister that was married to the man that raped me told me I messed up her life. I will never forget that NEVER.
When I get really tired I go back into that horrible personality and I can't don't have the strength to combat it.

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(Wow! Was that an arrow I just saw flying passed the target?)

Does giving money or things to the poor or the needy proof of being lovable? You can do that and go home and beat the crap out of your spouse or kids. Give me a break Dixon!

This article isn't about whether or not we think someone ELSE is a loveable person but rather it is about whether or not we see ourselves as being lovable or not. How one views him or her self affects how they live, how they treat others, how peaceful or happy they are or are not in the face of life challenges.

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I have always felt different to others from a small child, I was adopted from an Orphanage when I was a few months old and of course grew up with alot of conditioning, my poor Mum would get so frustrated with me because I would have my own ideas on what life should be about and I was always very radical with my ideals. I left home at the tender age of 18yrs old and I started my journey of discovering who I really am, this took me through many painful circumstances, but wow what an incredible learning experience along my path, I have come to the conclusion that we can learn daily about the wonders of life and the spiritual being within which is what it is all about, I like and love who I am, even though it has taken me 56 years, I feel peace and acceptance of my true self. Love found me in my incredible Husband who is a very "Spiritual" being.

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Dixon; I think you did the dodging dance: after all you specialize in being contentious and considerations of lovability, (not philanthropy but are you what folks think of as a lovable guy and do you think of yourself that way?) may not seem worthwhile to you. That's the thought that's been thrown down on the table . I fully admit that I'd rather think of things more abstract, but it's very basic and I'm sure we'll all feel better by resolving it and making it well. If the universe is using Deepak for it's point man, pointing these things out I guess, at least, I won't gripe at having it brought to my attention.

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Deepak's writings appeal to one's ego. I find it interesting that he talks a lot about being love and etc. but the statistics show that religious people in America give 4 times as much money to charities and volunteer to help others twice as much as those who consider themselves as non-religious. Which group do you think is demonstrating more love?

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Nickey! Be honest; your anger is for hiding something. I find this article fills me with terror; I prefer not to contemplate my lovability.You are hiding behind a spew of intellectual gobbledegook, so freaked by the idea of doing it that you attack D.C.Are you another one who keeps torturing yourself reading material you don't respect in the hopes for healing. I quite understand that level of terror because I would rather not contemplate the truth of my sense of self worth, or worthlessness as it were. His words are simple and direct even if you can't see yourself simply acknowledging that your beauty is equal to the rest of creation; emanating from the divine core of ALL THAT IS the source of life.I'm one of those people who see beauty and lovability everywhere because I really believe that nothing but God exists.I would prefer never to notice how neurotically I approach aspects of my life which I feel are too tiring to pay attention to, but I'm not venting at Deepak because he brought my attention here, I guess thats what the universe wants me to be aware of since it's in my face here;See how simple! 1]All of creation is beautiful and being part of such, therefor so am I. 2] Seeing one's self as spirit, acknowledging our beauty allows us to escape the trap of feeling unloveable from not having received (for any reason) love. When we see ourselves as lovable it makes us sexy and attractive to others;What happens then, the real scary thing is a different story.

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Every little bit helps, I have not spent a penny on mr chopras books(Library). They are informative to move ahead, U don't have to live by his writtings. If u think god helps u shift images and memory in your brain u are wrong, U are the one to shift and this shift only happens by your surroundings and intellect. The bottom line is what "you" want. Thnks Mr. Chopra for your insights. I felt I was loveable, but after my marriage, negative thoughts from my surroundings has made me evaluevate my-self being. Yes I was lovable at one point, got to find that love again.

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Yes well I am sure in some airy fairy way it may be of some 'help' to someone but it is poorly written and reveals little insight into how human beings function. To suggest that previous experiences are of no relevance is just plain stupid. People do not have the ability to just 'shift their perceptions' because they read some book which uses flowery language and is suggestive and I think he knew anything about early brain development and attachment then his book may be worth looking at but as it stands..a useless contribution to people as it is only his opinion based on NO understanding of the internal working models we have developed as children. Besides people who truly feel unlovable are unlikely to be perusing book shops in search of self help books, they are more likely to be homeless, drug users and are people who need serious interventions from SERIOUS mental health professionals. I like some of his ideas but its a real shame he is making money from vulnerable people as explaining the reason for their unhappiness in simple terms would be easier and more productive for them rather than just suggesting a 'shift' in their thinking which is impossible to achieve without long period of therapy. From someone who writes books trying to convince people of an afterlife and god though you cant expect much...when you start all this nonsense about spirits and deviate from the facts of the brain being a chemical reaction..your bound to be spouting nothing more than twaddle!

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Deepak writes these article for us to read and to contemplate. They are not there to provide answers for us but are there to help us to find our own answers; we do this by searching within and asking additional questions. If this does not resonate with you at this point and time; no worries, you might not need to hear this. But for others this may open up a whole new understanding and thought process.

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