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Do You Snoop Through Your Partner’s Phone?

Do You Snoop Through Your Partner’s Phone?

My personal opinion on snooping through your partner’s phone or email: if you’re snooping, there’s something wrong… even if you don’t find anything incriminating. But it looks like plenty of people disagree with me.

A study conducted by dating site OurTime.com recently shed some light on how some daters view snooping. Out of 2,258 adults across the country, 37% of women were okay with e-snooping, while 29% of men said the same. And it seems younger daters were more comfortable peeking—36% of 18-34 year olds, 40% of 35-44 year olds, and only 26% of people 55+.

And we’re not just creeping on our significant others—eHarmony.com found that we’re also e-stalking our dates before we even go out with them. Alright, this one I’ll readily admit to. How else are you supposed to secretly learn about your date’s divorce or yarn-collecting club?

Have you ever snooped through a partner’s phone or email? Did you find anything incriminating? Share in the comments!

 

 

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1:04AM PDT on Jul 12, 2013

oh no it cut off the rest of my comment....oh well probably better off i really had a good rant going...the end of the story was i ended up discovering that "D" was a disgusting sex addict that met several girls from the internet for sex at hotels, and i never even had a clue that anything was going on

1:00AM PDT on Jul 12, 2013

snooping is what ended(thankfully) my 6 1/2 year relationship with my son's father. although i obviously had some suspicions regarding certain odd behavior he exhibited once in awhile, along with catching him lying about his whereabouts a few times while i was at work...overall "D" appeared to be a very sweet, attentive, and loving boyfriend. Our sex life was amazing and very frequent, we didn't fight or argue very much, and I couldn't have asked to be taken care of any better throughout my entire pregnancy of our son. my point is that had I never decided to do a little snooping through his phone one day after finding out he lied to me about being at his mothers house while I was at work, I would have never known there was even anything wrong in our relationship. things seemed practically perfect between us. so anyway, I decide to do a little snooping and immediately I find texts between him and a female coworker where they were making plans to get together for sex(not implied,but actually written out in black and white "let's get together and f***") I was obviously completely heartbroken, but being the naive love-struck woman who just gave birth to this man's child, I ended up forgiving him after he promised me that nothing actually ever happened, and he was only talking to her for the ego-boost, but never actually intended on carrying out their plans. so a couple months go by where he was obviously very careful about deleting any incriminating evidence from his phone beca

10:59AM PDT on Mar 26, 2013

I've never snooped on my husbands phone and I never plan on it.

2:57PM PDT on Oct 22, 2012

I have and it helped me figure out why I felt distance between me and the guy I was seeing. Thankfully that's all I needed to get out of the relationship he regretted it and I didn't go back. I don't recommend doing this if you have an issue just ask your partner this habit because an addiction and is very unhealthy. If you need to question something in a relationship then you should know your answer.

4:38PM PDT on Sep 14, 2012

Nope, I don't know how to work the damn thing... :)

10:48AM PDT on Sep 14, 2012

Lying, cheating,stealing, snooping, all are HUGE "NO'S" for me.

1:04PM PDT on Sep 7, 2012

I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship. I snooped on my ex's phone, because I caught him snooping on mine. None-the-less, there just was absolutely no trust in our relationship and that's why it didn't work. A relationship simply won't be successful if you have no trust in your partner. The minute your partner or you are snooping on each others phone, that should throw a huge red flag.

11:52AM PDT on Sep 4, 2012

I wouldn't, unless I suspected something was going on and needed proof/confirmation or something....

2:41PM PDT on Sep 3, 2012

Once, the last person I was with. I would get this weird feeling that I needed to, and each time I did, I found something. I wish I was smarter and didn't accept the bullshit excuses I was given. It wasn't something I normally did in relationships, but my gut told me something was up.

1:35PM PDT on Sep 2, 2012

No, i think that is not necesary...

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