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Do You Wear Masks?

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Do You Wear Masks?

In preparation for Halloween, we took my four year-old daughter to the pirate store in San Francisco, where she got a pirate mask, an eye patch, a black swashbuckler hat, and a sword. She was very clear with us that she didnít want to be a nice pirate. She wanted to be a mean, scary pirate that kills people (go figure). She was so excited to get dressed up, and as soon as we got home, she donned her garb and ran to the mirror to check herself out. But after taking a gander at herself, she screamed bloody murder and stripped off the costume. When we asked her what was wrong, she said, ďIím too scary.Ē And now she wants to be a fairy instead.

It got me thinking about the masks we wear.

I know for years, I wore masks that didnít quite fit right — in fact, some of them were downright scary. There was the doctor mask, which was supposed to strip me of my real emotion, elevate me to some unnatural pedestal, drain me of my humanity, require me to sacrifice my personal needs in service to those of others, and distance me from others. Then there was the starving artist mask, the perfect Mommy mask, the good wife mask, the church girl mask — you know what Iím talking about.

Just like my daughter felt, I remember getting to a point in my life where I saw myself in the mirror and went screaming bloody murder in the other direction, because I was so scared by what I saw. Just like Siena, I decided to strip off my masks to reveal the authentic me underneath. Instead of fragmenting myself into these masks, I longed to integrate all the facets of what makes me whole, to stop wearing costumes, pretending to play some role thatís really not me.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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5:16AM PST on Dec 18, 2012

Thanks :)

5:15AM PST on Dec 18, 2012


12:17PM PST on Dec 17, 2012

I hate masks. But then people tend not to like people who are too sincere, too natural, too one piece as we say.

9:17AM PST on Dec 17, 2012

Thanks for sharing

5:16AM PST on Dec 17, 2012

I wish I could: my 'mask' always slips off...

1:26AM PST on Dec 17, 2012

Thank you

8:03PM PST on Dec 16, 2012

Thanks for sharing.

4:34PM PST on Dec 16, 2012

Thanks for sharing!

5:48AM PDT on Mar 15, 2012

Thanks for the article.

11:21AM PDT on May 1, 2011

thank you

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