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Do You Worship Physical Beauty?

Every morning I spend a few minutes looking at my reflection in the mirror. Sometimes I like what I see, other times not so much.

I’m 50 years old and I have multiple sclerosis. There are great fluctuations in my health status and, therefore my appearance. Sometimes there is a spring in my step, sometimes I need to use a cane, sometimes even the cane is not enough; sometimes I am physically unable to complete my morning beauty routine; sometimes I could pass for 10 years younger, sometimes 10 years older.

I’m not a classic beauty. I don’t think of myself as pretty and no one has ever accused me of being cute. Still, I can honestly say that I am an attractive woman — and I’m not even going to say, “for my age.” I’ve never caused anyone to scurry away in horror. I look just the way I’m supposed to look. I look like me.

I view myself in much the same manner one would view a piece of fine art. If I were to concentrate on nothing but the individual parts that make up the whole, I could make quite a list of the flaws. My nose is too big, my skin is too pale, and my thighs have lost their former firmness. My weight is just right for my height, but I take only a smidgeon of credit for a healthy lifestyle and thank my ancestors for their genetic gift.

I know that I am not alone in my resistance to the standards and gruesome hard work of acceptable beauty. There are others –† many others — who believe as I do.

We ask ourselves why other women continue to subject themselves to torture. Is it peer pressure? Is it for the men? I think a lot of men are as perplexed by it all as I am. Do the insecurities of adolescence remain with us forever? Is it because “they” say we should? That’s the worst reason of all. Who the hell are “they” anyway?

We must come to terms with our inner beauty — our intelligence; our sense of humor; our wild and crazy and passionate selves.

Young women, please take note. Life is an accumulation of our experiences. I’ve lived the good, the bad, the ugly, and even the ridiculous. Hopefully, there’s a lot more to come. It all shows in my face, in my mannerisms, and in the way I carry myself.

Rather than attempt to cover my tracks, I prefer to embrace all those experiences that got me here. Physical beauty is fleeting. I primp, but the mold I use is purely my own. I’m satisfied with that.

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5:49AM PDT on Oct 8, 2013

We must be careful not to disrespect that a healthy body that has been made so - notwithstanding the limits of real physical illnesses that impose some limits - by our choices to exercise and to turn our backs upon society whenever society tries to sell us junk food instead of the kind of food we should eat produces beauty in its own right. Obesity is a disease caused by dietary perversions and there is nothing wrong with a man refusing to tolerate a lifestyle that causes a pot belly. Appropriate exercise even if one trains hard for a limited session does not so much as worship beauty as it does to respect and appreciate our bodies and others who might not like to see beer bellies hanging over the belt line.

2:11PM PDT on Oct 30, 2011

I think it's very hard to shrug off these expectations completely - but I'm trying to! I avoid glossy magazines, and 'fat talk' as much as possible. For the most part, though, I'm reasonably happy with my character and don't think about my appearance too much.

10:41AM PDT on Oct 18, 2011

Thanks for the reminder. Sometimes it's hard not to look at the typical mold of beauty and feel inadequate.

11:26AM PDT on Sep 7, 2011

I have been with not so physically beautiful men who were smart, funny, kind, generous, and grand listeners and also physically beautiful men who were slobs, inconsiderate, self-centered and petty....Guess which ones were my favorites?

3:34PM PDT on Aug 30, 2011


12:19AM PDT on Mar 28, 2011

Thank you for posting.

6:54AM PST on Feb 25, 2011

just here for points for the animals ...

7:08PM PST on Feb 22, 2011

I wrote the previous post (past member). I am 29yrs old and my body is my temple and the only approval of beauty I need is my own. that is what makes someone beautiful. Inner Beauty.

7:03PM PST on Feb 22, 2011

here, here! the only standard of beauty is the one youre born with. NOBODY has set any standards for beauty. Ignorance and stupidity in the media influence the fragile minds (& it has nothing to do with age) the young are most gullible but some girls age but their brains dont grow.

6:56PM PST on Nov 23, 2010

Thank you for posting.

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