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Does Size Matter?

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Does Size Matter?

The male sexual organs are a complex and well orchestrated center of sensitivity andfunctionality.  Unfortunately, rarely do the questions concerning this organ system evolve beyond the issue of size.  The confusion between genital size and sexual satisfaction is perhaps one of the most damaging and rampant sexual myths on the planet.  Teasing apart the insecurity and confidence that defines our sexual selves comes for both men and women through a maturing comfort with our bodies erotic instruments.

The anxiety that many if not most men feel about their penis size is as universal as the misconception that it is the penis that is the ringleader when it comes to sexual satisfaction and prowess. “We equate masculinity and power with penis size,” says Ira Sharlip, MD, clinical professor of urology at the University of California at San Francisco and president of the International Society for Sexual Medicine. “Of course, there’s really no relationship.” Still, Sharlip says, “all” of his patients want to increase their penis size. The anxiety attached to penis size has shown up in many studies, where men clearly overestimate the size of the average penis and consistently underestimate their own by comparison.  For the record, the average male penis is flaccid (not erect): from 3.4 inches to 3.7 inches (8.6 cm to 9.3 cm), erect from 5.1 inches to 5.7 inches (12.9 cm to 14.5 cm) and average penis girth (circumference when erect): from 3.5 inches to 3.9 inches (8.8 cm to 10 cm).

Sadly, many other studies confirm this same finding, that men tend to compare themselves in a way that is likely to end up with a negative evaluation. This might be, in part, because most pornographic depiction of penis size does not reflect the average man’s penis. He got the job because he was so big… Even men who are considering the painful process of surgical penile enlargement more often than not have average size penises even though they would describe themselves as having unusually small penises.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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2:49AM PDT on Sep 8, 2013

How long is a piece of string ?

4:21PM PDT on Mar 29, 2013

Confession bear: I like small penises o_o

4:02PM PDT on Mar 27, 2013

Forget the's all about the technique!!!

9:35AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

the more i write
the more turned on i'm getting,..... !!!

9:11AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

old phrase:
it's not the size of the stick
but the magic in the wand*

8:23AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

i dont think i can feel romantic love!
so sad.

8:08AM PDT on Oct 11, 2012

Love is all that matters

3:22PM PDT on Oct 10, 2012

That depends on the size of the vagina

3:06PM PDT on Oct 10, 2012

only if you need a magnifying glass and tweezers to find it

4:16PM PDT on May 12, 2012

"Does Size Matter?"

“We equate masculinity and power with penis size"

I have never heard ANY woman (except myself) talk about penis size, women only talk about
LOVE, cuddling and whether their husband remembers their anniversary. All my life I believed the MYTH that SIZE DOESN'T MATTER. That's a lie perpetrated by MEN with SMALL PENISES. Sure, a woman can orgasm with a finger, but that's not nearly as satisfying as a big thick penis hitting a woman's G spot and causing that liquid to squirt out.
Sure, men can use their fingers to do that too, but it's not nearly as satisfying as feeling that
huge thick penis poking the cervix. I guess it's because it's NATURAL. Male, female relationships are more complex than "just" penis size. I think men with small penises should hook up with women with small vaginas. There's probably a perfect penis for every vagina and every woman should try out a lot of them until she finds one she really likes.
30% of young women and 50% of older women don't even like sex so they should get men
with small penises because size won't matter to them anyway. Instead of men freaking out and getting mental problems over their tiny penises they should just find women who like tiny penises, there are plenty of them out there. I don't need a professor to tell me how fantastic small penises are, I went out and found out for myself. Big penises rock!

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