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Don’t Force It

Don’t Force It

It’s all too tempting to think that we are in control of our own destiny. And while our lives are partially the result of choices we’ve made, we must accept that not everything will go according to plan.

If you’re anything like me, then this is difficult! Especially when society seems to reinforce the motto of “making things happen!” But in all honesty, forcing your life to be a certain way is draining and confusing. There’s a difference between forcing things to happen and preparing for opportunities so that when they come, you perform at your best. Just by pressing on towards your goals, you’ll find that things happen for you naturally — which is a relief.

It sounds cliché to go with the flow — but it’s better to do that than to tire yourself out while fighting against the current. You might as well enjoy the ride!


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Erika Oglesby

Erika Oglesby is a freelance writer and wandering nomad currently located in Grand Rapids, MI. She is dedicated to helping people better their lives through self-knowledge and alternative therapies -- especially women of color and women diagnosed with autoimmune diseases. Visit her website at


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1:31AM PST on Mar 6, 2013

True. Things happen when they happen (when they're supposed to) and not a minute sooner. Thanks Erika.

1:31AM PST on Mar 6, 2013

Thank you :)

11:22AM PST on Mar 5, 2013

ive always been a go with the flow person ive been thinking if its bad or good this artical helped me see its ok :)

3:41AM PST on Mar 4, 2013

Thank you.

6:36PM PDT on Aug 1, 2012

Thank you for article.

9:05PM PDT on Jul 19, 2012

We all realise that every day is different, some are good days , some are bad days. I think the statement going with the flow, means to cope with it. thanks

12:53PM PDT on Jul 6, 2012

thanks for posting

12:13PM PDT on Jun 29, 2012

Not really. One should work for a better future.

3:12PM PDT on Jun 28, 2012

Seeing the end result, but not being frustrated or bent out of shape when we arrive in another manner than expected...

1:26PM PDT on Jun 28, 2012

This is very very true. Thank you : )

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