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Don’t Get Stuck In Scary Situations

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Don’t Get Stuck In Scary Situations

Tuesday, my son choked on a piece of candy. My mom literally saved his life by flawlessly performing the Heimlich Maneuver. It was a technique she’d never even practiced before that moment, the instant when her eldest grandchild needed her to get it right. Naturally, the incident left all parties quite shaken.

As the children filled me in later that night, I could hear the residual fear in their voices. That is the tricky thing about traumatic incidents. Once it’s over, everything seems fine. The risk appears to have passed, suggesting it is okay to just move on. Some would even pause to feel the proper humility, duly grateful for the optimal outcome.

I believe it is not that simple. The fear stays behind, quietly eroding your spirit, leaving you cautious and uncertain. This fear keeps people from living fully.

That evening, I acknowledged that the experience was incredibly scary for everyone involved and also that their Gran was a rock star for helping him through the crisis. After we’d processed the details at length, it was time to explore a way to move forward. I felt unwilling surrender our hard earned family peacefulness to this experience.

I said, “Now, we need to figure what that big exciting experience came in to our lives to teach us. What could we learn from this story about how to deal with other emergencies in the future?”

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3:44AM PDT on Oct 22, 2011

Thank you! This is a very proactive approach to future problems! :)

3:03AM PDT on Oct 21, 2011

Well done turning a frightening experience into something useful and passing along the good advice!

2:22AM PDT on Oct 21, 2011

For along time, I've tried to turn anxiety into lists of practical things to do, but it's a good idea to look at past fears in the same way too. Thanks for posting this.

9:41PM PDT on Oct 20, 2011

Christy, what a great thing you did after the event! And I'm so glad that he was OK.

9:29PM PDT on Oct 20, 2011

Don’t Get Stuck In Scary Situations

I don't even want to get near scary situations!

8:59PM PDT on Oct 20, 2011

Good advice. Thanks for posting.

8:36PM PDT on Oct 20, 2011

Wonderful approach and advice!

7:20PM PDT on Oct 20, 2011

In many cases, we have nothing to be afraid of but fear itself. This is a good sound bite, but we are human, and sometimes our first reaction is to project the worst that can happen. We need to be prepared by learning basic safety techniques, but we also need to adjust after emergencies by evaluating what happened and how we can be prepared the next time. It is easier to respond if one is calm instead of fearful. So work on being calm and positive and try to learn from all experiences in life---good or bad.

4:24PM PDT on Oct 20, 2011

great advice : ) glad to hear happy outcome

2:01PM PDT on Oct 20, 2011

Every able-bodied man and worman should take a standard first aid course and refresher course every two years. You never know when you may need it to save or help someone!

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