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How To Turn Fear Into A Blessing

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How To Turn Fear Into A Blessing

Bless you for your fear for it is a sign of wisdom. Do not hold yourself in fear. Transform the energy to flexibility and you will be free from what you fear. — Yoko Ono in our book, The Way Ahead

Everyone knows fear. It can come in an instant and throw us into chaos, yet it can also save our life. Fear is a natural response to physical danger, but it can also be self-created, such as the fear of failure, of being out of control, of being different, or of being lonely. There is a fear of the future and of death. We fear loving because we fear being rejected, fear being generous because we fear that we will not have enough; we fear sharing our thoughts or feelings in case we appear wrong, and we cannot trust because we are dominated by self-doubt and insecurity.

This self-generated fear is found in its acronym: F.E.A.R., or False Evidence Appearing Real. It appears real even though it is a fear of the future and is not happening now. Therefore, it has no real substance, arising when the ego-self is threatened, which makes us cling to the known and familiar. Such fear creates untold worry, apprehension, nervous disorders, and even paranoia.

The immediate effect of fear is to shut us down, and, in particular, to shut off the heart. Just for a moment, let your body take the stance of feeling fearful. What is your posture? Most people hunch their shoulders forward, fold their arms across their chests, or assume a similarly contracted position to shield the heart, fear having triggered the need to be on the defensive. In this self-protective place, the heart goes out of reach and we cannot feel love or even friendliness. Try saying “I love you” with real meaning while your arms are firmly folded across your heart. Hard to do!

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6:41PM PDT on Jun 10, 2014

Thanks for the Great Article.

2:24PM PST on Dec 21, 2012

I was an r.n. on an oncology unit about 40 years ago.
I live only lived four houses away from the hospital ,so I walked to and from work.
I worked swing shift (3:00 to 11:30 at night).
As I finished my shift I took the elevator down to the first floor,went through the automatic doors and proceded to walk home.
As I started out I noticed a man walking past the hospital.
I immeadiatley became not fearfull,but aware that he may follow me.
So,praying my husband was awake,I slowly began to walk,feeling for my house keys in case he wasn't.
I thought to myself,just turn around and look quickly,I did,I saw him hiding behind a tree.
Then my fear kicked in,how ever I prayed and asked God to protect me and keep me calm I thought if I panicked and ran he would give chase.
I got to the front door and it was unlocked,I went in and told my former husband,"Honey I think someone is following me".
He got opened the door and the man had his hand on the doorknob,my ex- husband a former Marine gave a blood curdling and gruff scream and started to chase him.
It was such a surreal experience,but if I hadn't listened to my intuition and not give in to fear I may have become a statistic that night.
So while I think fear is healthy,we can also try to manage it in different situations.
Great article.

10:02AM PDT on Oct 27, 2011

When I'm afraid the most useful thing is to write, although sometimes talking about it helps. Or turning my fears into a to do list, so you replace anxiety with action. Another good thing is to make an appointment with yourself to worry at, say, 5pm. Chances are, you'll forget!

It's a very lovely article, and I particularly like the idea of having tea with your fears and worries. I'm fond of tea...

6:32AM PDT on Aug 30, 2011

Thank you

6:50AM PDT on Oct 26, 2010

THis is what makes us human. Thanks for the article as well.

5:11AM PDT on Oct 26, 2010

Thanks for the article.

6:54AM PDT on Jun 15, 2010

Wonderful article. Thank you!!

7:13PM PDT on Jun 11, 2010

flight response. Fear can kill if it's not overcome or make you sick. It's like stress. I won't reveal certain secrets if I know that someone is going to tell on me.

7:10PM PDT on Jun 11, 2010

I've overcome and still overcoming and facing most my face with a poem that I wrote during my Spanish Poetry class for my Spanish Masters 3 years ago.

9:34PM PDT on Jun 5, 2010

All you need do is when fear appears, say this:
"Screw this! I'm going home!"
click your heals three times
be a fairy godmother
think: this is not the worst thing that is going to happen to me in my life, but if I die thinking about it for another second it WILL BE>
Screw this! I'm going home!
(works for Carmen)

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