There are three fundamental phases to becoming a leader: Following a leader, self-leadership, and leading others. Before you can become a leader, you must follow other leaders to learn, grown, and develop. At some point, you advance to the second phase, personal leadership, in which you become the leader of your own life. You may or may not ever choose to step formally into the third phase of leadership, leading others.
Try these exercises from the leadership and transformation coach Alan Seale, from his book The Manifestation Wheel.
You will need several sheets of blank paper and a pen for this exercise. Settle into a comfortable spot where you will not be disturbed. Settle into a comfortable spot where you will not be disturbed for the next 15 to 30 minutes, or perhaps more.
In the center of a blank sheet of paper, write the word “integrity” and draw a circle around it. Now write on this page every word that comes into your mind prompted by the word “integrity.” When no more words arise, take the last word you wrote and a start a new page with it. Write that word in the center of the page, draw a circle around it, and continue to free associate, writing on this page every word that comes into your mind prompted by whatever you wrote in the center. Continue this process until no more words come.
Then take the last word you wrote and start a new page with it, following the same process.
If at any point you have an “Aha!” moment, a relation, a new understanding, or come up against a personal issue, stop free-associating. Take a fresh sheet of paper and write or draw that thought.
When you have completed your work with “integrity,” go through the same process with the word “values,” and then the word “leadership.”
Finally, go through the same process with your full name, followed by the word “leader.”
When you are finished, take time to settle into your Point of Stillness. When you reach the silence, consider the following questions. Take time to sit with each and, when you are ready, go to your journal and write.
• Do you consider yourself a person of integrity?
• What are your core values?
• As this manifestation project unfolds, does it remain in alignment with your core values or are your values being compromised in any way?
• Do you consider yourself a leader? Are you comfortable with the idea of being a leader?
• What have you learned about yourself in this exercise?
• What have you learned about your relationship with leadership?
Adapted from The Manifestation Wheel, by Alan Seale (Weiser Books, 2008).