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Facing Up To Conflict

Facing Up To Conflict

Many spiritual people believe that conflict is always to be shunned. They disapprove of it morally; in their minds every conflict is a form of violence. Yet inner conflict is present in everyone.

We are driven by contradictory feelings and ideas. At times the contradictions are painful. You want to see yourself as a good person, yet you have impulses that no good person (as you define it) should ever have.

You want to see your country as a good country, but it has impulses no good country should ever have. There is very little difference between those two states.

Most violence in this world isnít committed by bad people. It is committed by people who are expressing whatís inside themselves, and if what is inside is rage and fear, the very effort to keep these feeling down will eventually be the cause of their eruption.

Iíve said that all wars are eruptions from the unconscious. The conflict that gets all the headlines is international war, but the inner war inside each individual is actually more important. It is the seed from which all other conflicts grow.

The way of peace brings us to inner truth by one road or another. You and I may find our truths differently, through depression, sadness, outbursts of anger, a nagging conscience, or sheer courage. Conflict even has a necessary place in the journey of the soul. It serves as the meeting point between two choices, and as long as we are on the path, choice is a constant.

There isnít a single choice you can make once and for all. The journey is too dynamic for that, and the deepest drives return time and again at different stages of life. Hope tells us that every conflict is serving spirit, even in those dark days when we are tempted to believe that conflict is only here to defeat us.

Adapted from: Peace Is the Way, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2005).

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Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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1:03AM PDT on Mar 23, 2012

NO more drama

8:37AM PDT on Mar 21, 2012

avoiding conflict never solves it

6:10PM PDT on Jul 16, 2010

thank you DC.

8:50PM PDT on Jul 8, 2010

Thank you for writing such meaningful columns.

3:35PM PDT on Apr 12, 2010

Thank you for the reminder DC! I try to remember to try again everyday. One days defeat is another days opportunity.

8:48AM PDT on Apr 7, 2010

I so appreciate this posting and the invaluable words of Deepak Chopra about facing and dealing with conflict. In my own life and in the work I do this is the starting point.Until we delve into our inner strife self limiting and often self destructive patterns of behavior will repeat themselves. Our lives will often feel out of control and running on their own accord. Learning how to confront conflict assertively without aggression is empowering...empowering of the inner psyche not the ego..Thank you for posting this for us to share. Stephanie Alt, MS

4:51AM PDT on Apr 7, 2010

Thank you for this well expressed interpretation of the value of conflict in our lives. One cannot get through an ordinary day without a certain amount of it, the yin/yang byproduct of free choice. The road is a learning experience; the problem is to recognize the opportunity when it is presented and choose the best path to resolve conflict as we meet it.

7:43PM PDT on Apr 6, 2010

thanks for the article

7:42PM PDT on Apr 6, 2010

great advice

6:07PM PDT on Apr 5, 2010

"I’ve said that all wars are eruptions from the unconscious. The conflict that gets all the headlines is international war, but the inner war inside each individual is actually more important. It is the seed from which all other conflicts grow"......If we could all get this bit the world would be a better place :)

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