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Fear Less

Fear Less

A mind that has any form of fear cannot, obviously, have the quality of love, sympathy, tenderness. Fear is the destructive energy in man.  – J. Krishnamurti

Fear can be a useful ally. It can focus us, keep us safe — even alive — at times. Fear of illness or injury can motivate us to stop smoking, to exercise, and to eat healthier food. In our communities, it can motivate us to make our air and water cleaner, our bridges and levees stronger, our workplaces safer.

Fear can also be an enormous hindrance. Fear can color our world so that a stick can appear as a dangerous snake or an offer of friendship can be perceived as an imposition or even an attack. We can fear not getting promoted or losing our jobs; fear what people think about us, or fear that people aren’t thinking at all about us. We can fear the loss of a loved one, fear getting older, fear dying.

The list of possible fears is almost endless, so it is not surprising that, sometimes without being aware of it, our actions and decisions can become ruled by fear. Living with fear can become an accepted and habitual way of being, leading to thoughts and actions that create more fear in a difficult-to-stop chain reaction — in ourselves, in relationships, in businesses and organizations, and in the world.

When we are afraid, our first impulse is to tighten our bodies and shut down our minds. We become the opposite of receptive and playful, and this is an enormous hindrance to learning new skills in the workplace, collaborating, and making interpersonal connections. The impulse to tighten can become so deeply ingrained that we may not even be aware of the ways that we keep ourselves back, or of the subtle and not-so-subtle ways that we communicate our fears to others.

Buddhism speaks of five primary fears:

  • Fear of losing our state of mind
  • Fear of public humiliation, or fear of speaking in public
  • Fear of losing one’s reputation
  • Fear of losing one’s livelihood
  • Fear of death

Reducing fear (and its physical manifestation, anxiety) and opening oneself to new possibilities — surprises, even — is the first step, I believe, toward a more lasting sense of accomplishment. Reducing fear can be the first action that frees us to achieve a goal (even when, in losing our fear, our goal becomes something very different than previously imagined).

To reduce fear, however, we must acknowledge and become aware of our fears. This may sound daunting, but I’ve noticed that this process of increasing awareness of fear is strangely freeing. My hope for myself, and my sincere hope for you, is that each day brings experiences in which fears are acknowledged without self-flagellation, so that these fears can be set free. This can allow wholly new approaches or solutions to appear.

(Adapted from LESS: Accomplishing More By Doing Less)

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Marc Lesser

Marc Lesser is CEO of ZBA Associates LLC, a company providing executive coaching, leadership development consulting, and keynote speaking services to businesses and non-profits. He is a developer and instructor of Google’s Search Inside Yourself program. Marc is a Zen teacher with an MBA degree and a former resident of the San Francisco Zen Center for 10 years. He is the author of Less: Accomplishing More By Doing Less and Z.B.A. Zen of Business Administration.

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5:06AM PDT on Oct 25, 2013

Fear of losing one's freedom? Fear of physical pain? Fear of addressing the void within? Five forms of fear...? These Buddhists aren't even trying!

4:45AM PST on Mar 7, 2013

I have no fears, but a very helpful article.

2:19PM PST on Mar 6, 2013

Noted

12:21PM PST on Mar 5, 2013

Some people can get so wrapped up in fear that it becomes their best friend ;-(

2:07PM PST on Dec 12, 2010

an article to think about, but mostly I wanted to compliment the picture above it. what a beautiful spirit shining through her eyes!

8:16PM PST on Nov 20, 2010

I love all your articles!

11:22AM PDT on Sep 10, 2010

very true thank for posted this

8:44AM PDT on Sep 7, 2010

fear is the killer...

5:51AM PDT on Sep 7, 2010

I am afraid of everything, but I don't let it get in the way of living my life. I just bite the bullet and work through my fear. It never goes away for me, but it doesn't rule my life either.

3:48AM PDT on Sep 7, 2010

nice

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