Feeling Unloved

One of the worst parts of suffering a great loss is the feeling of utter isolation. The problem of loneliness, which exists for countless people, requires deeper healing than simply seeking out company. Loneliness can happen in a crowd and may feel most intense when you find yourself alone on a packed city street.

As a child, it was easier to cure loneliness, because the presence of a parent was enough to offer reassurance. As an adult, loneliness becomes more existential–it feels as if you have been abandoned, yet you cannot say by whom. If you suffer from loneliness, have the intention to befriend yourself; ask for spirit to comfort you with its presence.

Children need constant reassurance that they are loved because their sense of self is undeveloped and therefore fragile. By hearing “I love you,” they gain a core of self-worth. As long as this core is strong, a person can withstand the loss of love, even though it may bring intense pain.

When the core of self-love has become too weak, despair is the result. In some people it was never strong enough to begin with; in others the intensity of grief has proved too much. Ask spirit to come in and repair your innate sense of being loved. Affirm today that you can feel loved within yourself, even after a great loss.

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

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Patricia H.

6:46AM PDT on May 22, 2012

thanks for sharing

send a green star

ii q.

9:39AM PDT on May 21, 2012

Emma S.

11:52AM PST on Nov 9, 2011

Like the idea of befriending oneself.

Robert O.

3:38PM PST on Jan 14, 2011

Thanks.

Camilla V.

11:31AM PST on Nov 10, 2010

I have felt that every now and then my whole life

Hartson D.

9:34AM PST on Nov 10, 2010

God made us incomplete. This "there is something missing" feeling is ultimately our need to get back to our Creator. We , not remembering our preexistance, try to find a way of filling this void with others. But others are also lonely and do not have the answer either. We can then be lonely in a crowd. Become unhappy with the lover that does not somehow fill that emptiness. This is unfortunate since this misunderstanding of this emptiness causes unrealistic expectations. Accepting what you can get from work, society or your lover as only part of the answer has to lower the expectation to a realistic reality. This void will only truly be filled when we pass from this reality to the "true" reality of the spirit realm. Where we are now is but the shadow cast by the spirit realm.

Susan B.

3:47AM PST on Nov 10, 2010

Noted,thanks.

c c.

9:51AM PDT on Aug 29, 2010

The greatest love of all...learning to love yourself.....is the greatest love of all....

Dorina V.

8:16AM PDT on Aug 16, 2010

@Teresa W. I truly believe that no one is ugly. There are so many features of our soul that shine outward and make us beautiful - inside and out. Our life experience may roughen our edges a bit and may make us feel bad about ourselves. We must find a way to get past that issue and see the beauty. Sometimes our friends help us and sometimes we find someone impartial to help us sort through it. But never think you are ugly. None of God's creations are ugly. We are all uniquely beautiful.

Teresa W.

4:45AM PDT on Aug 16, 2010

I'm too ugly to be loved anyway.