I have been writing articles on Breaking the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle and Finding Love for quite some time now. I love this topic as I really understand that dating struggle. If you are just joining us, check out my previous articles by clicking here as it will definitely give you a better understanding of what this current article is all about.
If you are embarking on finding your life partner then having someone in your life, a trusted friend during this process would be helpful. I found that having someone to bounce ideas off of was extremely important to maintain objectivity. When I would go on dates and meet someone new, I would share the experience with my friend and what the person was like. She knew how to listen and was close enough to me to know my “red flags”. When she would hear me say something like “he ordered four drinks during dinner” her radar would go up and she would speak up.
I sought out a friend who would be this objective person for me. At this time, I did not trust my own instincts with dating and men. It was something I had to learn. Having a good intuition and common sense about men did not come easily for me. I needed to learn how to be discerning and understand very acutely what my “red flags” were. Using my left brain to make these kinds of decisions was not anything I had done before and as my friend shared more of what she noticed in the men I was choosing, the clearer it became for me.