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Find Your Dating Ally

I have been writing articles on Breaking the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle and Finding Love for quite some time now.  I love this topic as I really understand that dating struggle.  If you are just joining us, check out my previous articles by clicking here as it will definitely give you a better understanding of what this current article is all about.

If you are embarking on finding your life partner then having someone in your life, a trusted friend during this process would be helpful.  I found that having someone to bounce ideas off of was extremely important to maintain objectivity.  When I would go on dates and meet someone new, I would share the experience with my friend and what the person was like.  She knew how to listen and was close enough to me to know my “red flags”.  When she would hear me say something like “he ordered four drinks during dinner” her radar would go up and she would speak up.

I sought out a friend who would be this objective person for me.  At this time, I did not trust my own instincts with dating and men.  It was something I had to learn.  Having a good intuition and common sense about men did not come easily for me.  I needed to learn how to be discerning and understand very acutely what my “red flags” were.  Using my left brain to make these kinds of decisions was not anything I had done before and as my friend shared more of what she noticed in the men I was choosing, the clearer it became for me.

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Liz Dawn Donahue

Liz Dawn Donahue was recently married after years of dating. She is the CEO of Mishka Productions whose signature event Celebrate Your Life, brings together people from all over the world to assist in raising the consciousness of the planet. CelebrateYourLife.ORG


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5:37AM PDT on Sep 8, 2012


5:55PM PDT on Aug 18, 2011

I seek to do this with my them pointers as to what makes a good date...what we should look for ain people we spend time with. It is importent to raise children not to let them just grow up.

7:44PM PDT on Nov 2, 2010

Nice article but I choose to make up my own mind about who I've dated & whether he is right or wrong for me. Sometimes even your very best friend could be jealous that you have found your knight in shining armour & find fault with him. I think I know what or who is right for me without anyone's help.

2:47PM PDT on Nov 2, 2010

AL, I'm confused. Everyone has a belief system of some kind. What is your definition of "religious beliefs"? Some people out there have material things as their belief, for some it is nature. Wouldn't there be an ego in all these things and for everyone?

6:31PM PDT on Nov 1, 2010

Thanx for the article.

5:14PM PDT on Nov 1, 2010

Having a good friend to talk about how the dating process is going sounds like a great idea- gives you a wider perspective on someone. Sexual attraction can lead you to strange bedfellows, so another level headed friend to run things by (and best to choose someone with good emotional health) is a great idea. I don't see that as herd mentality at all. Yeah ultimately you have to make up your own mind. Good article

3:13PM PDT on Nov 1, 2010


1:37PM PDT on Nov 1, 2010

thanks, but not something i would do.

1:35PM PDT on Nov 1, 2010

Noted and thanks

11:59AM PDT on Nov 1, 2010

good article! thanks.

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