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Finding Time For What We Love

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Finding Time For What We Love

I’ve always been obsessed with books. They are life long friends, one of the greatest treasures I’ve ever known. Old books, new books, childbirth and parenting books, Oprah’s book club books, the books assigned by my teachers at Middle Tennessee State University (particularly the women’s studies classes)… I’ve loved them all.

I did. Honestly. Even when I stopped reading.

For about 10 years, beginning with the birth of my son, I rarely actually read a book. I purchased, borrowed, collected, and inherited books. They were piled all around me. I would hold them, organize them, flip through them, and loan them to my friends. Occassionally, when I had a crisis, I would sink onto a pile before my beloved bookcase and “research” until I found something to avert said crisis. That happened the most with parenting things:

What does one do when their nursing toddler won’t stop biting?

How can I keep him from running out into the street without spanking?

Getting toddlers to sleep… what the hell?

And there were the others, the non-parental crisis:

How can I get my husband to stay when he wants to leave?

How to survive sharing my children with their father’s new wife?

What is codependency?

What to do when you’re married for the second time… and you think you’re a lesbian?

Clearly, I’ve leaned heavily on these books. And although a decade passed without me really reading them, I never could release them. Despite years of failed attempts, I wasn’t ready to stop calling myself a reader, declaring that I loved books. I wanted desperately to be the woman who read again. I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

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Christy Diane Farr

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3:02AM PST on Feb 27, 2013


2:46AM PST on Feb 27, 2013

This is the way we enjoy life

1:11AM PST on Feb 27, 2013

Thanks for posting.

12:57AM PST on Feb 27, 2013

Thank you

3:18PM PDT on Aug 31, 2011

Great article. Have been there myself-- even I got sick of my excuses like you did. Glad we both made it back home. Thank you for sharing.

1:34AM PDT on Jul 28, 2011

thank you christy for an article which conected with me INSTANTLY! ditto ditto on so many things.... i am 28 and just got married.... waiting and enjoyign my time in a new country so that i can find a job ....but even in this free time i end up doing useless things like waking up late n browsing net mindlessly..... there is half read book on the table and i see it guiltily every day. ...downloaded yoga video but laziness threatens to creep in.... lots of time but no time still!! ... and before i land a job and put the blame on that for not time i think i should just take out time for myself productively. :) thanks again!

10:13PM PDT on Jul 27, 2011

thanks for sharing.

11:28AM PDT on Jul 27, 2011

i always put the books i'm reading on my 'to do' list, reading is just as important as taking care of my pets or doing the laundry!

6:00AM PDT on Jul 27, 2011

Great article!

4:19PM PDT on Jul 26, 2011

Thank you for the article, i too am a lover of books. I can't count the nunumber of books i've read. I'm an old woman now, but i've loved reading since early grammer school when i discoverd the putting of letters together made words , and words into sentences, that told a story. And that reading takes you any and every where...........been hooked ever since.

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