Finding Your Peace In Uncertain Times

Almost no one thought Donald Trump would win the election, so when he did it naturally threw many people into fear, outrage, sadness and confusion.

Life is very unpredictable and causes varied emotions and mind states, many of which are extremely challenging and difficult, even unbearable at times. Imagine the mind is like a beautiful garden. If we let a pig in our garden we will have a hard time getting it out, as pigs really like tasty gardens! In the same way, negativity is like a pig that gets in our garden and causes havoc. Fighting fire with fire just adds to the negativity and creates further uncertainty.

If circumstances can’t be changed then we must change our attitude toward them—we can’t control the wind but we can adjust our sails. We either blame others or relax into each moment as it arises. When we’re with the way things are in the present moment then we’re free of confusion, and that freedom is our peace.

Chaos is natural—when we look at the world it is everywhere—yet we can find our sanity in the midst of this. Like water in a lake, when our mind is calm and peaceful we can see the depths below, but when our mind is disturbed it’s easy to get caught up in the turbulence. Beneath fear or grief there is steadiness, inner stillness, independent of the circumstances.

This means seeing clearly so we can let go, all the time, constantly, in every moment. As soon as we hold on, whether to resentment, anger, bitterness or fear, our mind gets caught up in the emotion and we lose our steadiness. Letting go doesn’t deny our feelings. They come and they pass.

All things come and go, all things are impermanent; we can’t cling to anything, not even pleasure, as it doesn’t last. Integrating the truth of this is wonderfully liberating for it brings us back into the present moment. If everything is impermanent, including our feelings, then there’s no point in grasping and trying to make those feelings last longer. Rather, there is far greater joy in connecting with sanity.

When we are kind to ourselves, as well as kind toward the person we are having a challenging time with, then an extraordinary thing happens: the pain within us begins to dissolve. This means there is nowhere for the negativity to take hold of or to land.

By embracing kindness, we strengthen feelings of self-empowerment, worthiness, and value. Extending kindnessto our adversary is like turning compost into roses.

 

Ed & Deb are the authors of many books. Deb is the author of award-winning Your Body Speaks Your Mind, now in 21 languages. They have three meditation CDs. See more at EdandDebShapiro.com

82 comments

Chen Boon Fook
Chen Boon Fook9 months ago

thanks.

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Mariana L
Mariana L11 months ago

Thank you

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Jennifer F
Jennifer F11 months ago

I agree with many other people here that Trump winning the election didn't "change" me. There are so many things that all of us deal with in day to day life and quit trying to change the things you can't! Deal with life!

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Susan L
Susan L11 months ago

The Golden Rule and Pass It Forward - both do work

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Sharonaway R
Past Member 11 months ago

Thank you for the interesting article. Hugs.

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Deborah W
Deborah W11 months ago

GET TO KNOW YOURSELF, TRY THIS ... we hope and pray for peace, yet remain dependent on the manufacture of arms -- for an end to air pollution yet use our car to buy a paper at the newsstand around the corner -- a more just world but don't share our surplus with those who don't have enough -- to be protected against sickness but refuse to buy an unsprayed apple if it looks less than perfect. Once we go deep inside, face our real self and admit to it, our work in progess will become much clearer, and get harder or easier, depending on choices yet to be made.

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Brett Cloud
Brett Cloud11 months ago

Ty

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Brett Cloud
Brett Cloud11 months ago

Ty

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Jim Ven
Jim Ven11 months ago

thanks for sharing.

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Leo Custer
Leo C11 months ago

Thank you for sharing

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