So you think youíre ready to invite a potential romantic interest over to your home, perhaps for lunch or dinner? Think again. Take a look at your surroundings and make certain your home isnít your own worst enemy. Peruse this checklist of five ways your house can ruin a date before bringing your new sweetheart home for that†home-cooked meal.
1. A Dirty House
This isnít a hard one to figure out.†Dirty dishes in the kitchen, a stained toilet bowl, hair on the bathroom sink, a pile of unwashed†laundry, tumbleweed-sized dust bunnies or funky odors all send out a clear message: you donít care about your surroundings. If youíre not concerned about the space you live in, how could you possibly expect to share it with someone else in the future?
“Your living space is a direct reflection on you as a person, so thatís what your potential date is going to think about when they experience your home,” says†certified life coach Darshana Hawks (also known as “Dr. Dar”), an expert in the field of interpersonal relationships who is based in†Charlotte, NC. “Think about what you want them to think about you, and adjust accordingly.”
Also, nothing ends a date faster than†plumbing problems. You might know the secret to flushing your 100-year-old toilet, but if your date uses it and inadvertently clogs it up, he or she might make a swift exit out of sheer embarrassment. If your bathroom plumbing is tricky, leave a clear sign in the bathroom explaining how to use it. Keep a plunger near the toilet for†emergency toilet unclogging, and leave some†bathroom deodorizer in plain sight.
2. Your House is Too Bright or Too Dark
Lighting says everything. Dr. Dar says, “Lighting sets the mood. If you want your date to be comfortable, then itís important to create surroundings that reflect that.”
You donít want it so dark it feels like a cave in your home. On the other hand, you donít want it so bright a new visitor runs out the door blinded by harsh overheads. Find a happy medium. Bright lights in the kitchen are always good. An adjustable dimmer for the dining room sets tone. A few lit candles in the bath suggest romance. A pair of matching lamps in your living room (always avoid overhead lighting in the places you relax) no brighter than 60 or 75 watts each provide sufficient lighting without being overwhelming.