3. Your Taste in Décor Doesn’t Match the Taste of Your Date
Your taste in décor says more about you than any other aspect of your home. If you prefer contemporary mid-century and your date has a taste for country original, chances are you won’t be so successful merging households. Feel that aspect out clearly before inviting someone over, otherwise it’s one of the quickest ways your house can ruin a date.
“A mismatch in taste over décor is a red flag as to whether this relationship can work out or not,” Dr. Dar offers. “It’s an indicator this is probably a mismatch on a much deeper level. If you’re just looking for someone to date casually then it’s possible it won’t be an issue. If you’re looking for a life partner, probably not a match.”
4. You Are a Hoarder with Piles of Junk Everywhere
Nothing is more frightening than stepping unprepared into the house of a hoarder. If your home is packed to the ceiling and the only clear spaces are pathways snaking from the entranceway to the kitchen, bath and bed, you’re not ready to date just yet. Divest yourself of those unneeded goods and seek counseling. Once the space and your brain are cleared out then you’ll be set to have your date over for entertaining. On the other hand, you could consider dating another hoarder. Be wary, however, of disappearing underneath your belongings. It has happened. Really.
“A cluttered mind is unattractive,” Dr. Dar says matter-of-factly. “A cluttered home is even more unattractive. That indicates there is no physical space in your mind or heart for love or a relationship. Make some room in your head, heart and home so you can have the love you desire.”
5. You Live with Your Parents
The economy has forced quite a few college grads (and even older singles) to move back home, and if that’s your situation, you’ll need to define your space and make it mature-looking. Nothing can ruin a date faster than an evening spent in the bedroom you grew up in, complete with its childhood posters. Take down the Debbie Gibson or New Kids on The Block posters and put some grown up art on your walls.
Also, you’ll want your date to know that you are independent from your parents and (presumably) are only living there out of economic necessity. “If you’re in your late 20s or early 30s, you’re still living at home and your parents are heavily involved in your decision making, that can be a deal breaker for a lot of people,” Dr. Dar explains. “Most life partners aren’t comfortable with the umbilical cord not being cut. It basically says a potential partner is going to play the role of parent.”
Best wishes for successful romantic dinners! And if any of the aforementioned sounds familiar, leave a comment! We want to hear about YOU.