5 Ways Your House Can Ruin a Date

By†David Aaron Moore,†Networx

So you think youíre ready to invite a potential romantic interest over to your home, perhaps for lunch or dinner? Think again. Take a look at your surroundings and make certain your home isnít your own worst enemy. Peruse this checklist of five ways your house can ruin a date before bringing your new sweetheart home for that†home-cooked meal.

1. A Dirty House

This isnít a hard one to figure out.†Dirty dishes in the kitchen, a stained toilet bowl, hair on the bathroom sink, a pile of unwashed†laundry, tumbleweed-sized dust bunnies or funky odors all send out a clear message: you donít care about your surroundings. If youíre not concerned about the space you live in, how could you possibly expect to share it with someone else in the future?

“Your living space is a direct reflection on you as a person, so thatís what your potential date is going to think about when they experience your home,” says†certified life coach Darshana Hawks (also known as “Dr. Dar”), an expert in the field of interpersonal relationships who is based in†Charlotte, NC. “Think about what you want them to think about you, and adjust accordingly.”

Also, nothing ends a date faster than†plumbing problems. You might know the secret to flushing your 100-year-old toilet, but if your date uses it and inadvertently clogs it up, he or she might make a swift exit out of sheer embarrassment. If your bathroom plumbing is tricky, leave a clear sign in the bathroom explaining how to use it. Keep a plunger near the toilet for†emergency toilet unclogging, and leave some†bathroom deodorizer in plain sight.

2. Your House is Too Bright or Too Dark

Lighting says everything. Dr. Dar says, “Lighting sets the mood. If you want your date to be comfortable, then itís important to create surroundings that reflect that.”

You donít want it so dark it feels like a cave in your home. On the other hand, you donít want it so bright a new visitor runs out the door blinded by harsh overheads. Find a happy medium. Bright lights in the kitchen are always good. An adjustable dimmer for the dining room sets tone. A few lit candles in the bath suggest romance. A pair of matching lamps in your living room (always avoid overhead lighting in the places you relax) no brighter than 60 or 75 watts each provide sufficient lighting without being overwhelming.

3. Your Taste in Dťcor Doesn’t Match the Taste of Your Date

Your taste in dťcor says more about you than any other aspect of your home. If you prefer contemporary mid-century and your date has a taste for country original, chances are you wonít be so successful merging households. Feel that aspect out clearly before inviting someone over, otherwise itís one of the quickest ways your house can ruin a date.

“A mismatch in taste over dťcor is a red flag as to whether this relationship can work out or not,” Dr. Dar offers. “Itís an indicator this is probably a mismatch on a much deeper level. If youíre just looking for someone to date casually then itís possible it wonít be an issue. If youíre looking for a life partner, probably not a match.”

4. You Are a Hoarder with Piles of Junk Everywhere

Nothing is more frightening than stepping unprepared into the house of a hoarder. If your home is packed to the ceiling and the only clear spaces are pathways snaking from the entranceway to the kitchen, bath and bed, youíre not ready to date just yet.†Divest yourself of those unneeded goods and seek counseling. Once the space and your brain are cleared out then youíll be set to have your date over for entertaining. On the other hand, you could consider dating another hoarder. Be wary, however, of disappearing underneath your belongings.†It has happened.†Really.

“A cluttered mind is unattractive,” Dr. Dar says matter-of-factly. “A cluttered home is even more unattractive. That indicates there is no physical space in your mind or heart for love or a relationship. Make some room in your head, heart and home so you can have the love you desire.”

5. You Live with Your Parents

The economy has forced quite a few college grads (and even older singles) to move back home, and if that’s your situation, you’ll need to define your space and make it mature-looking. Nothing can ruin a date faster than an evening spent in the bedroom you grew up in, complete with its childhood posters. Take down the Debbie Gibson or New Kids on The Block posters and†put some grown up art on your walls.

Also, you’ll want your date to know that you are independent from your parents and (presumably) are only living there out of economic necessity. “If youíre in your late 20s or early 30s, youíre still living at home and your parents are heavily involved in your decision making, that can be a deal breaker for a lot of people,” Dr. Dar explains. “Most life partners arenít comfortable with the umbilical cord not being cut. It basically says a potential partner is going to play the role of parent.”

Best wishes for successful romantic dinners! And if any of the aforementioned sounds familiar, leave a comment! We want to hear about YOU.

David Aaron Moore writes for†Networx. Get home & garden ideas†like this on Networx.com.

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Elisa F.
Elisa F.1 years ago

Thanks for sharing.

Ammy G.
Ammy G.3 years ago

A lot of the points are just common sense.

Eternal Gardener
Eternal Gardener3 years ago


health truth
health truth3 years ago

haha great information , better tidy my house P

Sarah M.
Sarah M.3 years ago

why would i consider changing my decor, which reflects my personality, for a date? that's nonsense.

Laura M.
Past Member 3 years ago

I agree emphatically with all of them except #3 - WHAT? if you care that much about "decor" i don't think i want to date you anyway...

Kiana S.
Kiana S.3 years ago


paula eaton
paula eaton3 years ago

Interesting. Thanks.

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson3 years ago

interesting thanks

Teddie S.
Teddie S.3 years ago

Do people really need to be told they need to clean up their homes before they invite anyone to come visit?