Food as a Proxy for Life

I have often heard it said that our relationship with food mimics our relationship with life.  I have been thinking about this a great deal lately, as it seems to be true in my life.  As someone who suffered from an eating disorder for years, my rigidly controlled eating patterns gave me solace.  I knew exactly how many calories I was going to eat every day.  And I knew I was not going to gain weight.  As someone who tends to fear uncertainty, this control was very comforting to me.

It was also very limiting, however.  I couldn’t go out to dinner with friends – or to any social function where there would be food.  And when I did, I made up excuses for why I wasn’t eating.  It was unhealthy both for my body and my spirit.  I wanted so deeply to change, but I was afraid of the unknown.  I couldn’t envision my life without the constraints I had so carefully built up.  Eventually, however, my desire to change and be free of my self-imposed limitations overcame my fear of the unknown and I was able to dramatically change my eating habits.  Suddenly, I found myself going to restaurants and cooking more than I ever had in the past.  I was actually enjoying food.  It was an overnight transformation that was actually years in the making.

Recently, I have been experiencing the same emotions in other areas of my life.  I still fear uncertainty, and it is sometimes difficult for me to have faith in my decisions.  The result is that I often stagnate, unable to choose a path.  I realize that this way of relating to the world is, on some level, a choice.  I could choose to have more faith.  But I haven’t because I can’t yet see what my life would be like if I were to suddenly be able to make decisions without the endless analysis and doubt.  The very fear of uncertainty that I want to conquer is what is keeping me from progressing.  But just as I did when I changed my eating habits, I know I will get to the point where my desire to move away from habits that no longer serve me will one day overcome my fears.

And I am certain I am not the only one to recognize the parallels between the ways in which I approach food and other patterns in my life.  Our attitudes toward food are a valuable window into deeper emotional issues.  Therefore, exploring our eating habits cam be healing both for the body and the spirit.



Aud Nordby
Aud nordby3 years ago


Liling O.3 years ago

Very interesting!

Duane B.
.3 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

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Ram Reddy
Ram Reddy3 years ago


Edvanir L.
Edvanir L.3 years ago

Very interesting.

Fiona T.
Fi T.3 years ago

Let's eat a healthy life out

Val M.
Val M.3 years ago


Aud Nordby
Aud nordby3 years ago


Care member
Care member3 years ago

Thank you