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Four Steps to Healing an Overwhelming Experience

Four Steps to Healing an Overwhelming Experience

The tragic events at Sandy Hook Elementary School instilled in most of us a deep sense of pain, anger, and helplessness, which are the typical symptoms associated with trauma. Whether directly involved in any such event or simply witnessing it, as many of us did over and over again through the media representation, our emotions and our nervous system can become overwhelmed. When this happens, we can become so fixated on these images and feelings we become blocked in our healing and recovery from such traumatic events.

The following suggestions can be helpful whenever an individual, family or community experiences mild or massive trauma, no matter what the nature of that trauma. Although acting on these suggestions will no doubt be extremely helpful, in some instances the individual may require a more intensive approach. In these instances itís best to seek out psychological and/or medical treatment as well as implementing these ideas.

1) COMMUNITY

DONíT ISOLATE! Stay in touch with others who will support you and whom you can support. This can be time with friends or formally organized groups, e.g. churches, twelve step meetings, support groups, etc.

CARING AND SHARING! Show others your caring through words and action. Giving love is rewarding for both giver and receiver. Let yourself receive care as well, and ask for it as needed. A hand on the shoulder or a good hug from a friend or family is worth a thousand words.

PRAY TOGETHER! Pray for peace, compassion and wisdom, and for the forces of light and peace to prevail.

2) RESOURCES

FOCUS ON RESOURCES! Itís critical to healing to weave resources in with the dramatic tensions triggered by overwhelming events, aka trauma. Resources can be anything that helps you feel good, to feel relaxed and calmer. Activities such as watching movies, gardening, cooking, taking walks in nature, exercise, etc., can all be resources.

DISTRACT YOURSELF! Yes, itís not only okay to escape, but necessary and useful for healing. This can be anything that takes your mind off the images, thoughts, sounds, etc. of the traumatic incident.

3) RESPOND

DISCHARGE AND RELEASE! Physiologically, when your nervous system is over-stimulated, it balances itself through discharge and release. Experiences such as trembling, shaking, sweating, a surge of warmth, stomach gurgling, deep breathing or sighing, crying or laughing are all ways the body is bringing itself back into balance. These will come and go, so give them time to do discharge. Be sure to allow yourself respite from these by alternating the discharge with resourcing.

TELL YOUR STORY! But donít dwell on it or repeat it again and again. Take breaks frequently, and refocus on here and now. Give yourself opportunities to express your feelings, and also CHANNEL YOUR FEELINGS INTO CONSTRUCTIVE ACTION!

4) GROUNDING AND ORIENTING

LOOK AROUND! Focus your attention on items in your immediate surroundings. Really study something that attracts your attention. Focus in the here and now.

NOTICE THE GROUND! Take a walk or sit outside, and especially note the sensation of your feet or any other part of your body on the earth. Walk slow and mindfully. Stomp your feet a few times, then notice the soles of your feet.

TOUCH! Hug your friends and family. Ask for shoulder rubs, and offer them to others. Get a massage.

EXERCISE! A very good way to discharge your tension, plus it helps your body in so many other ways. Sports, aerobic activities, yoga, weight training. Any and all can be helpful to maintaining balance.

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Dr. Steven Farmer

Dr. Steven Farmer is a world-renowned author, teacher, shamanic practitioner, Soul Healer and former psychotherapist. He has published several best-selling books and other products, including Earth Magicģ, Earth Magicģ Oracle Cards. For more information, visit EarthMagic.net and Dr. Steven Farmer's Facebook page.

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11:40PM PST on Feb 4, 2013

Thanks for sharing!
I especially liked this paragraph "CARING AND SHARING! Show others your caring through words and action. Giving love is rewarding for both giver and receiver. Let yourself receive care as well, and ask for it as needed. A hand on the shoulder or a good hug from a friend or family is worth a thousand words."
When it comes to dealing with trauma and an overwhelming experience, we all need each other to help us heal! Thank you for all these great tips!

3:52PM PST on Jan 6, 2013

Thank you for the good advice! Food, shelter, safety first. (Maslow's hierarchy of needs). I add dignity and oddly, transportation to that foundation rung. Then we can think, grow, and heal.

8:29AM PST on Jan 2, 2013

Good advice, thank you.

8:25AM PST on Jan 2, 2013

thanks for sharing

10:52AM PST on Jan 1, 2013

I love this Sentence : PRAY TOGETHER! Pray for peace, compassion and wisdom, and for the forces of light and peace to prevail . God gives patience to the families of the victims . Thanks.


9:33PM PST on Dec 31, 2012

What a nicely written article and good advice. I like especially talking and doing constructive
actions. While we talked about Newtown, my daughters and I made paper snowflakes to send
to the 'new' school.

5:09PM PST on Dec 31, 2012

Sound advice, thanks.

2:47PM PST on Dec 31, 2012

Thanks for sharing.

2:30AM PST on Dec 31, 2012

The strong don't need to be highly knowledgeable or resourceful; just knowing where and how to get help counts

9:30PM PST on Dec 30, 2012

Thanks for sharing.

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