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Not a Penny Needed to Improve Relationships

Not a Penny Needed to Improve Relationships

To improve personal relationships does not cost a single cent; it costs nothing. All that is required is a change of attitude and offering a few kind words. It may require a small amount of energy, but the expenditure of an ounce of energy is not much of a price to pay.

There is no one as happy as those who consider the happiness of others to be their own happiness. People who can find happiness for themselves in seeing even the smallest increase in others’ happiness have the mindset of happiness.

With this one simple tip, you can give happiness to others:

In the same way that a person will remember an insult for ten years or more, they will also remember a compliment. Ten years may pass, and a person will still feel angry over some slight, but the pleasure of a compliment also lasts the same length of time. It takes only a moment to say but the effect will continue indefinitely.

From this we can see that it costs nothing to improve personal relationships, and set them on the path to happiness. It requires very little effort, just a change in attitude, and a small concrete demonstration of goodwill.

Looking at the suffering in the world, it is clear that most of it springs from pain caused by the attitude of taking love. People only think of what they themselves want and this desire leads to pain. Rather than concentrating on what you want, think about what you can give to others. Then you will find that as soon as you try doing this, your worries disappear. These are words of enlightenment that have the power to open your eyes.

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Adapted from The Laws of Happiness, by Ryuho Okawa (Lantern Books, 2004). Copyright (c) 2004 by Ryuho Okawa. Reprinted by permission of Lantern Books.
Adapted from The Laws of Happiness, by Ryuho Okawa (Lantern Books, 2004).

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6:59PM PST on Nov 7, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

6:59PM PST on Nov 7, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

6:58PM PST on Nov 7, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

6:57PM PST on Nov 7, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

1:07PM PDT on May 17, 2012

thanks for sharing

10:50AM PDT on Oct 2, 2011

Thank you

11:15PM PDT on Aug 23, 2010

I am trying this and it seems to be working with my current relationship ... I tried this with my last relationship but it didn't survive, it's possible I didn't try enough or he wasn't trying(?!)

1:57AM PDT on Jul 28, 2010

So very true. Thanks.

7:48AM PDT on Jul 27, 2010

Thank you very much!

4:05PM PDT on Apr 4, 2010


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