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Gaining Clarity

Gaining Clarity

Clarity of mind means clarity of passion, too; this is why a great and clear mind loves ardently and sees distinctly what he loves.  –Blaise Pascal

The only way to gain clarity about your direction is to follow the path as it is presented to you. I am not sure you can decide anything  through mere thoughtful reflection. It is the life experience of the questions that teach most. When you are full in 3D in your world,  the questions seems to unwrap themselves and even when you might not want to face the answer as it shows itself,  there is no looking away,  there is just what it is.

Aldous Huxley identified this aspect of seeing in childhood. He wrote: “Children are remarkable for their intelligence and ardor, for their curiosity, their intolerance of shams, the clarity and ruthlessness of their vision.”  Being fully present with no excuses is the greatest wisdom of youth and one that will take you far into adulthood. When I was away this weekend working, I thought how much I enjoy being surrounded by my own children and all of their friends. They always tell it like it is, with a cool teen rap spin.

The other and most remarkable attribute of clarity is how it magnifies what is essential and important to life.  The recent brushes with mortality I have been witnessing and the tragic unpredictability at the core of the earth itself has cut away all of the details that can swallow you up and are in the end mostly meaningless. The great success is to know that just as it is right now is full on success. It is crystal clear when striving becomes its lighter reflection of trusting your process to expand to its highest good and greatest potential.

My favorite painter, Vincent Van Gogh, who used whole tubes of paint in rendering a cloud or a tree once said:  “I experience a period of frightening clarity in those moments when nature is so beautiful.  I am no longer sure of myself, and the paintings appear as if in a dream.”  Life is like this when you allow yourself to experience the whole of it. Gratitude feels like water running over your hands and for brief moments you heart is pieced by how deeply we can love.


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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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4:23PM PDT on May 12, 2011


1:43PM PDT on Mar 27, 2011

Clarity is purity in thought

1:42PM PDT on Mar 27, 2011

Clarity is purity in thought

8:25AM PDT on Mar 24, 2011

Bieing "Childlike" throughout life is a blessing. Being "Childish "is just sad!

10:41AM PDT on Mar 22, 2011

I love this. See things from a childs eyes and you"ll see all the beauty in the world and will find ur way.

9:58AM PDT on Mar 22, 2011

Before I always gone there with dogs, but now dogs died, I stop going. But no excuses for me!

9:41AM PDT on Mar 22, 2011

Super article. Great thoughts. Thanks Wendy.

1:57AM PDT on Mar 22, 2011

I think some of us experience a hightened awareness of beauty and I love what you said, namely,
'brief moments your heart is pieced by how deeply we can love.'

10:51PM PDT on Mar 21, 2011

thanks for sharing.

9:38PM PDT on Mar 21, 2011

Clarity is connected with faith to me...surrendering to the will of God.

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