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Get Out Of Your Own Way

Have you ever let fear and self-doubt hold you back from launching a new business, or starting a creative project, or leaving a toxic relationship? It feels really defeating, doesnít it? Like youíre drowning. Trapped. Enslaved.

How many times have you decided to move towards a dream, only to sabotage your own efforts? How often have you let self-doubt, fears, and other limiting beliefs get between you and your goal? What if the path between you and your dream was free and clear of any self-imposed obstacles? What if the only hurdles you had to jump over were real ones, rather than ones youíve erected yourself? How would that feel?

Free. Liberating. Unshackled. Joyful.† Hopeful.

Iím all about teaching people how to live fearlessly and get out of their own way, so they can dream big, release limiting beliefs, be UNAPOLOGETICALLY authentic, have faith, overcome fears, and GO FOR IT.† Doing so heals self-defeating wounds in a powerful way, and from this place of genuine healing, you can achieve ANYTHING.

I Believe In Me. I Believe In You.

Iím kind of an oddball when it comes to this issue, because for some reason I canít quite pinpoint, Iíve always known, deep in the root of me, that I could do anything I decided to do. Those who know me well know Iím about to launch forward towards a dream when I say ďJust watch me.Ē I become like a heat-seeking missile, totally 100 percent focused on achieving whatever Iíve decided I want to pursue.† Go to med school? Check. Become full partner? Check. Get married? Have baby? Start website. Publish book? Check. Check. Check. Check.

So What’s The Secret To My Success?

I get out of my own way. Pretty much always have. Not that I donít have other faults- I do! But I donít erect self-sabotaging barriers that make achieving my goals harder than they already are.

What do I mean by self-sabotaging barriers? Iím talking about the limiting beliefs and self-defeating behaviors we create that keep our dreams from coming true. Letís look at the difference between real obstacles and the false ones that exist only in our minds.

Dream Real Obstacle False Obstacles

Going back to school to achieve a professional dream 4 years of grad school training that takes time, costs money, and demands discipline Limiting belief ďYouíre not smart enough.Ē

Self-sabotaging behavior: Missing the deadline for the GMAT (or MCAT or LSAT).

Becoming a published author Getting a literary agent and publisher Limiting belief ďNobody gets an agent or a publisher. There are too many people with better books.Ē

Self-sabotaging behavior: Never even trying to get an agent or get your book published.

Finding your soulmate Meeting the right person Limiting belief ďHeís just not out there. Iím going to have to settle.Ē

Self-sabotaging behavior: Dumping your date before he has a chance to dump you.

Starting your own business Creating a website, finding funding, building clientele Limiting belief: I canít afford to start my own business.

Self-sabotaging behavior: Not creating the website because you canít afford a web designer.

Next: How Do You Eliminate the False Obstacles?

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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10:04AM PST on Feb 25, 2011

Thank you for posting.

5:33PM PST on Feb 13, 2011

Thanks lissa, your articles are great reading matter

1:56PM PST on Jan 31, 2011

good post.

9:05PM PST on Jan 30, 2011

thanks for the great article.

7:45PM PST on Jan 30, 2011

I just need to figure out what I want!

2:00PM PST on Jan 30, 2011


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12:22PM PST on Jan 30, 2011

Thanks for this---I need it to write poetry.

10:46AM PST on Jan 30, 2011

Great article. I definitely get in my own way. So much of what a person chooses to do in life is based on their self-esteem.

8:44AM PST on Jan 30, 2011

So true. I started my own business following these principles. It is time for me to start again after a few years of self defeating thoughts.

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