Giving Ourselves Credit

I recently had a conversation with a group of highly intelligent women about the state of health care in the United States. These women were new acquaintances and throughout the conversation I felt as if I presented myself as the confident person I would like to be. It was a wonderful feeling.

Later that day, I realized that I wasn’t presenting myself per se. I was simply being my authentic self. This was a surprising realization for me, as someone who at times has introverted tendencies. Allowing myself to own my ideas is something I’ve been working at quite a bit lately, and the fact that I was able to do just that without even trying was a new and fantastic experience.

However, I did not give myself credit for this accomplishment right away. After the conversation, I felt as if I had simply done a better job of acting the part of a bold and confident person. It was only upon reflection that I realized I had simply shown up as my true self. As we follow the path of personal growth, it is easy to discount our achievements. But it is extremely important that we give ourselves credit for the progress we make.



Patricia H.
Patricia H.3 years ago

thanks for sharing

Danuta Watola
Danuta Watola3 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Atocha B.
Mary F.4 years ago

Best advice in the article is the last two sentences!

Will Rogers
Will Rogers4 years ago

They could probably tell that she was faking it, people are a lot cleverer than that. We have instincts and intuition as well as body language skills, if we all follow this advice we would be just another bunch of fakers and actors grinning with overconfidence at each other. This is a bit of advice that she should keep to herself, considering that her views will probably change in the next few months or so when it fails to be the universal panacea that it claims to be.

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Duane B.
.4 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Jane Barton
Jane Barton4 years ago

"But it is extremely important that we give ourselves credit for the progress we make."

I don't think it's "extremely" important to blow smoke up our own @^#, I think it's more important that OTHER people do. Happiness comes from doing a job you like but confidence comes from other people appreciating the job you did. Either they will or they won't. "Acting" confident or being phony about ANYTHING is only necessary when you're
selling snake oil, something nobody needs or wants or "religion" (same thing). THEN you have to ACT and LIE and NOT "be authentic". It's called "advertising". No "selling" is necessary if you have actually DONE a good job, selling is only necessary when you have done NOTHING and your PRODUCT is NOTHING. Think about it.

Abbe A.
Azaima A.4 years ago