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Grounding Relationships in Oneness

Grounding Relationships in Oneness

Harmony and beauty in our lives and communities often fail due to our insistence on the duality of self and others. The ultimate solution for generating peace and accord in our relationships and in our world, therefore, lies in seeing that we all are one.

When we maintain the duality of self and others, we develop disproportionate levels of love and hatred, attraction and repulsion for other people, which throws our relationships out of balance; the capacity for affinity becomes dormant.

Here is a way to replace this spirit of separateness to one of interconnectedness:

If we replace this spirit of separateness with compassion, much of the friction in human relations will disappear. If we realize that we all are one, then there will be no impulse to jealousy and no room for conflict. There will be no inclination to like or dislike people; everyone will be regarded with the eyes of compassion.

Through the eyes of oneness, we are never tempted to say that one group, or one person, is more important or more valuable than the other. The Diamond Sutra teaches us that there is no boundary or chasm that separates self and others, and that we should seek to let go of this mental construct. Dissolving our dualistic worldview creates an environment in which natural affinity arises.

Celebrating the differences in people while viewing everyone through the eyes of oneness nurtures powerful connections and creates a plane of existence where everyone is mutually supportive and respectful.

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Adapted from Living Affinity, by Hsing Yun (Lantern Books, 2004). Copyright (c) 2004 by Hsing Yun. Reprinted by permission of Lantern Books.
Adapted from Living Affinity, by Hsing Yun (Lantern Books, 2004).

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8:56PM PDT on Mar 11, 2013

Fascinating, thank you.

8:55PM PDT on Mar 11, 2013

Fascinating, thank you.

8:54PM PDT on Mar 11, 2013

Fascinating, thank you.

8:54PM PDT on Mar 11, 2013

Fascinating, thank you.

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