Most often, the term organic applies to our food. Sometimes it is there to certify fabrics or product ingredients. Rarely is it applied to our sexual appetite. To be called organic, the food must be produced without any chemicals to induce or sustain its growth. The process relies on old fashioned techniques of good soil, clean air and decent weather. Small local farmers making food the old fashioned way is in vogue now because the chemical-driven industrial farms that go so far as to change the genetic make-up of food itself, are all too sci-fi. And who wants to eat science-fiction food anyway, even if it is cheaper? The more we know about the synthetic and petro-chemical process of producing food, the more we want the real stuff–the food that comes from nature–and we willingly pay more for it.
Meeting the needs of the human sexual appetite is also a multi-billion dollar industry. Not unlike the chemical companies’ vast holdings of genetically altered rows of corn are the millions upon millions of cheap porn DVDs; all clipped and re-clipped from the standard sets of bio-engineered overlarge breasts, tummy tucks and engorged male sexual organs. This crop of sexuality is available anytime, day or night, on almost any form of digital transmitter from the TV to the computer to the smart phone. The adult industry that promotes it makes more money than every big technology company you can think of, combined. Yet in spite of the enormous spending on the virtual orgasms that are readily available, I still believe that most of us would pay more for real, organic sex, the kind that you can feel change you from the inside out. This rare breed of intimacy is the one we sing about and write movie scripts for, it is the kind of sex that grows out of a relationship where you are as deeply connected in life as in the bedroom.
Growing intimate relationships that have the potential for organic orgasms to ripen also requires a healthy ecosystem. In this ecosystem, I often use the metaphor of fire to describe the passion and intensity of physical intimacy. It is nature’s energetic equivalent to our sexuality. Fire is the energy of life, providing light, heat and the ability to transform the physical world. Fire in intimacy is the force of attraction that keeps relationships dynamic and whole.
The foundation or ground of your relationship is in your thoughts.