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Growing an Organic Orgasm

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Growing an Organic Orgasm

Most often, the term organic applies to our food. Sometimes it is there to certify fabrics or product ingredients. Rarely is it applied to our sexual appetite. To be called organic, the food must be produced without any chemicals to induce or sustain its growth. The process relies on old fashioned techniques of good soil, clean air and decent weather. Small local farmers making food the old fashioned way is in vogue now because the chemical-driven industrial farms that go so far as to change the genetic make-up of food itself, are all too sci-fi. And who wants to eat science-fiction food anyway, even if it is cheaper? The more we know about the synthetic and petro-chemical process of producing food, the more we want the real stuff–the food that comes from nature–and we willingly pay more for it.

Meeting the needs of the human sexual appetite is also a multi-billion dollar industry. Not unlike the chemical companies’ vast holdings of genetically altered rows of corn are the millions upon millions of cheap porn DVDs; all clipped and re-clipped from the standard sets of bio-engineered overlarge breasts, tummy tucks and engorged male sexual organs. This crop of sexuality is available anytime, day or night, on almost any form of digital transmitter from the TV to the computer to the smart phone. The adult industry that promotes it makes more money than every big technology company you can think of, combined. Yet in spite of the enormous spending on the virtual orgasms that are readily available, I still believe that most of us would pay more for real, organic sex, the kind that you can feel change you from the inside out. This rare breed of intimacy is the one we sing about and write movie scripts for, it is the kind of sex that grows out of a relationship where you are as deeply connected in life as in the bedroom.

Growing intimate relationships that have the potential for organic orgasms to ripen also requires a healthy ecosystem. In this ecosystem, I often use the metaphor of fire to describe the passion and intensity of physical intimacy. It is nature’s energetic equivalent to our sexuality. Fire is the energy of life, providing light, heat and the ability to transform the physical world. Fire in intimacy is the force of attraction that keeps relationships dynamic and whole.
The foundation or ground of your relationship is in your thoughts.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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10:54PM PDT on Mar 12, 2013

Interesting article. Here's a thought. If your interest is just the orgasm, then maybe that is your problem to begin with. Organic or not. Now I am talking relationships. Not sex. Nothing wrong with having sex for the sake of having it to satisfy a momentary need. Sometimes it is what's needed. I'm talking about relationships where there is something more. Orgasm sometimes gets in the way of what otherwise would be a really good relationship. Orgasm should neve define who you are and what your relationship is with your spouse. Anyone in a long term relationship will tell you, sex is not the sole thing that makes a good relationship but if you make it your only priority, it can break one up real quick.

7:39PM PDT on Oct 22, 2011

I have been telling people something similar to this for years. They must cultivate the relationship if they want it to grow. So many people will walk away before trying to talk to the other person. They both want something but are both afraid to talk about it.

8:27AM PDT on Apr 17, 2010

interesting article.

6:15PM PDT on Apr 10, 2010

Thanks, interesting article? Green Porn anyone? This is a show on the Sundance Channel about how insects and animals mate. Cute.

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9:28PM PDT on Apr 4, 2010

Plus, how about taking an eco action for the planet before we make love with a lover or with ourselves.
I think that ErthEros has some sweet eco sexy ideas, like how taking an eco action before making love helps manifest the deepest and most magical love making possible. ie. a green foreplay. More about this and other eco sexy flavors is at For all the sexy life, Stele =;)

6:27PM PDT on Apr 4, 2010

Interesting, organic questionable.

3:23PM PDT on Apr 4, 2010

This is interesting advice, but it's really biased toward people in a long-term monogamous relationships. I hope you aren't suggesting that only those people can have good sex. Otherwise, kudos.

10:31AM PDT on Apr 4, 2010

I like the point of wiev in this article =]

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Thanks for the good advice!


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