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Growing Together In Love

Unfortunately, often in relationships we play small, stuck in insecurity and sheltering ourselves within the role of co-dependency. This habit must be broken, for it is not love, and playing small so as not to rock the boat doesnít serve: it will never bring the happiness or the love we seek.

Even if you are not in a relationship, there are surely people around you whose words trigger emotions – reactions that sometimes feel like Pandoraís box being opened. These are the people you need to listen to most: they are the ones who are touching on the feelings you need to release. These repressed emotions are what prevents you from discovering the simple joy of being, that keep you trapped in self-judgement and dissatisfaction. Donít analyze what comes up: just focus on loving that place, on recognizing and embracing the unknown, opening up to be transformed before your eyes. Without fighting, without saying no, with a†yes from your intellect to your heart, receiving what emerges from within with open arms.

If we can do this with ourselves, then it will not be hard to give that same love to others, to share, to listen, to support. And in a world where the list of those in need grows constantly, what better way to contribute than to be the best of ourselves, to heal ourselves and see how, when we have emptied ourselves of the old, of that which held us back and kept us small, our full potential is unleashed from within. This will be reflected all around you: you will see it in your actions, your relationships, your creativity.

Internal transformation has a positive effect on everyone around you, at home and in your family; in your neighborhood, in your town. And what is the result of many people triggering this inner transformation at once? Truly loving relationships, sensitive and open hearts that are not afraid of losing something, for they are complete within themselves and know only to give. It will not be long before we create the world we have dreamed of living in, with the intellect at the service of the heart, instead of limited personal agendas focused on lack and external satisfaction.

But the first step is inwards, toward yourself, opening to feel, responding with sensitivity, honesty and truth, without judgment. Give it a try. Then tell me what happens!

Isha Judd will be touring the US and Canada in May for the launch of her new book, Love Has Wings. Learn more at

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Isha Judd

Isha Judd is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher and author; her latest book and movie, Why Walk When You Can Fly? explain her system for self-love and the expansion of consciousness.


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3:27AM PDT on May 28, 2013

Thank you :)

4:42AM PST on Jan 24, 2013

Then, nobody is alone

1:27PM PDT on May 23, 2012

great article

10:23PM PDT on Apr 28, 2012


8:53AM PDT on Apr 11, 2012

Love doesn't exist!

8:53AM PDT on Apr 11, 2012


9:28PM PDT on Mar 22, 2012

Wonderful article. Thanks for sharing this.

10:02AM PDT on Mar 21, 2012

Thanks for sharing

8:06AM PDT on Mar 21, 2012

Thankyou, it's so true. We have to love ourselves, to enjoy our own company, to trust ourselves. When I separated from an abusive relationship I made sure I got used to ME first before embarking on a new relationship. Now I have been with my partner for four years, we love each other, have grown together and have a completely honest relationship.

6:07AM PDT on Mar 21, 2012

i didnt like it at all

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