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Hair as a Metaphor for Life

Hair as a Metaphor for Life

For the last year and a half, I have been growing my hair out from a very short pixie cut. I enjoyed the shorter style, but I became bored with it. I initially cut my hair short because, like many women, I hated my hair. It is neither straight nor curly – it’s wavy and it used to irritate me to no end.

I would blow dry and flat iron my hair into submission, hoping to achieve a sleek, board-straight look. Of course, that hard earned sleekness would last only a couple of hours, at which point the waviness would invariably return. The heat exposure and the cornucopia of harsh products I used created split ends, dried and damaged the hair and left it limp and without body. So I chopped it off.

As I’ve been growing it out, however, I’ve chosen to accept my hair’s waviness. I still prefer to blow dry it and I flat iron the bangs I’m growing out, but I don’t iron the rest of my hair, nor do I use as many products as I have in the past. Much to my surprise, my hair has never looked better. It’s soft and has body and it’s largely free of split ends. As relatively minor as something like one’s hair is in comparison to the larger issues we deal with in life, I feel this discovery about my hair is an effective metaphor for promoting an authentic lifestyle. When we fight our nature, we rarely experience the outcomes we hope for. However, when we accept ourselves as we are, we are much more likely to thrive.

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Sarah Cooke

Sarah Cooke is a writer living in California. She is interested in organic food and green living. Sarah holds an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from Naropa University, an M.A. in Humanities from NYU, and a B.A. in Political Science from Loyola Marymount University. She has written for a number of publications, and she studied Pastry Arts at the Institute for Culinary Education. Her interests include running, yoga, baking, and poetry. Read more on her blog.


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1:38AM PDT on Mar 24, 2013

Interesting thought, thanks Sarah.

8:15PM PDT on Jun 27, 2012

love the conclusion

5:32AM PDT on Jun 27, 2012


6:41AM PDT on Jun 15, 2012

thanks, went through the same :)

6:36AM PDT on Jun 15, 2012

gone through the same

12:37PM PDT on May 30, 2012

This may seem odd coming from a man and all, but I have had much the same experience, since I'm an enthusiast of long hair. I have donated my hair twice, and the transition from long to short, and short to long, is always interesting. I have also had some dissatisfaction with my wavy hair, though my solution was always to tie my hair back. Leaving it out more often has always been interesting, and has led to my coming to accept my unruly hair, and to accept myself a little bit more, one step at a time.

4:09AM PDT on May 30, 2012


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9:55AM PDT on May 29, 2012

thanks for sharing.

5:22AM PDT on May 29, 2012

I've had a variation on a 'to the shoulders' style all my life...until now. Currently my hair is a pixie cut and I love it!

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