For many of us, religion is something that we observe when someone is born, marries or dies. Suddenly, the religion you were raised with, the traditions your family may have followed, become vitally important.
Here are 8 hard questions to ask yourself and your partner, if you are in a committed relationship, that can help you to clarify your expectations, hopes, and needs around spirituality. Read the questions here:
1. Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?
2. Do we share a spiritual practice such as meditation, yoga, or some other type of “non-traditional” observance? If not, would adding such a practice enrich our lives together?
3. Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other’s choices?
4. What does each desire of the other in terms of support and/or participation in the other’s practice?
5. How do we mark birthdays and deaths within our family?
6. What place do spiritual and/or religious beliefs play in our home and homelife?
7. Do we observe any spiritual rituals? Celebrate any religious holidays? Together? Separately?
8. Will we be buried? Where? If not, what do we want to happen to our bodies?
Adapted from The Hard Questions, by Susan Piver, who will be teaching the Creative Power of Meditation, www.eomega.org.