When you hug your husband, it’s not only a boost for the two of you; it’s also good for your kids. When they see you happy–and happy with each other–it makes their world.
In fact, why not make hugs the norm for everyone in your family?
Hugs bring smiles to faces and warmth to hearts. They are uplifting when you’re down, encouraging when you’re in the midst of challenges, and celebratory when you’ve reached your goal. When someone hugs you, it gives you a sense of approval and bolsters your self-esteem. Hugs strengthen friendships, and increase feelings of love, support and loyalty.
And they’re free! So there’s no reason to hold back.
Some parents may hug their kids, but think it’s inappropriate to show affection for each other in front of the children. Recently, a therapy client told me that when she was growing up, she never saw her parents display affection towards each other. When her dad came home each evening, he gave her mom one quick, stiff, perfunctory hug–and that was the sum total of the “affection” she ever saw them share. There was no juice in that hug. No love; no joy. Her parents were civil; they were polite; they were friendly. But they weren’t loving to each other. And my client grew up wondering what was wrong in her home.