Heal Your Childhood Anger

What unhealed emotional wounds from your childhood keep emerging, with hopes to finally be healed? Use this exercise to heal the roots of your anger.

For this exercise you will need approximately 10 minutes of uninterrupted time.

Think back to yesterday. Imagine that your memory is a videocassette that you can rewind to any time you choose. Right now, take it back just 24 hours. What were some of the things you did during the day? Did anything frighten you or make you angry? It doesn’t have to be anything especially important or dramatic. You may have felt impatient waiting in line, or you might have witnessed someone being rude or inconsiderate. For the next minute or so, try to remember the events of the day in as much detail as you can. Focus on a moment of anger, becoming aware of the sensations in your body as well as the emotions in your mind.

Next, rewind that videotape back even farther. Think back exactly one year. Try to recall what you were doing a year ago on this date, or as close to it as you can remember. What was on your mind at that time?

Rewind the tape even farther back to when you were a teenager. Again, focus on a situation that made you angry or frightened. Relive the feelings, mentally and physically.

Try now to remember an incident from childhood. What is the earliest time in your life that you can recall being really angry? Bring that experience into your awareness. Where were you when it happened? Who else was there? Who or what was it that made you so angry? Feel all the sensations created by that anger.

Notice how fear and anger have accumulated over the years. Although you cannot remember it, there was a time in your life before you ever felt anger or fear, a time of total peace and tranquility.

With that feeling of total bliss still in your awareness, begin to move that imaginary videotape forward again. Visit the same points in your life that you stopped at earlier: Those angry or fearful moments from your childhood, your teenage years, a year ago, yesterday.

Spend a minute or so feeling the anger and fear being erased by this memory of bliss.

Adapted from The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books 2003).

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Mc T.
Mc T.2 years ago

Well, that didn't work. What else you got? I would really like to know!

Danuta Watola
Danuta Watola2 years ago

Thank you for posting this article.

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson3 years ago

thanks. However, often times you have to confront the anger. Or the reason it started. once i did that, the release was amazing

Charles Francis
Charles Francis3 years ago

I like the exercise. Mary Sovran recently wrote an article, “Healing Childhood Emotional Abuse with Mindfulness Meditation.” As the title suggests, it uses a similar approach, but incorporates mindfulness meditation to help the healing process.

She also describes an exercise called writing meditation, which she says dramatically changes the way we feel toward our abusers. She said that mindfulness meditation and the writing meditation enabled her to overcome the wounds from her childhood.

Charles A. Francis
The Mindfulness Meditation Institute

Emma Rose
Emma Rose3 years ago

oh good grief I cannot remember that far back....yes with anger you need to deal with it and move on..sometimes when ANGER hits me I tell myself one step at a time let it go..LET IT GO! WHEN THAT BLOOD BOILS UP I WILL EXPLODE ...funny! I BRING MYSELF DOWN.....then I go back to being peaceful..if you dwell on anger too long you wont have room for PEACE...so I try my best to be at peace....how much room do you need to have anger..I forget most of the time why I was angry funny..so I tell myself pretty soon I will forget this so I move on to the next angry episode...yes sometimes little things get to me..as I age I have no more patience.

Maria M.
Maria M.3 years ago

Wonderful exercise. I brings about awareness to free myself from emotional upset and alllows me to move on. There are moments when I REACT instead of responding, these are the moments when I know that anger was the cause for the reaction. Awareness is the beginning of understanding.

Miranda Parkinson

Recalling these negative emotions helps us understand why we react negatively to situations. Then when that same situation arises we can control how we respond.

tiffany t.
tiffany t.3 years ago

interesting thanks

Sue T.
Susan T.3 years ago

why is it always about remembering anger or discontent?

Why not remember the GOOD times? the smell of rain after a hot day, the relief that my home did not get hit by the tornado, the friends who would play ball with me and my brothers

Yeah some things in my life sucked. why not remember the GOOD part. growing up watching stars on a lawn chair. drinking water from the hose, just being a kid! there is so much good being a citizen in this country.

Count your blessings!!! and thank GOD or whoever you pray to that you are not in Syria right now. or a woman in Afganistan, or a woman in Saudia Arabia who cannot drive.

Where is the outrage about this?

Alice Birmingham
Alice Birmingham3 years ago

When my son was 5 (now 45) I asked him why he didn't get mad at a kid that said something mean to him. His response was that he pretended the kid was kidding and just being funny because he didn't want to be mad. Seldom in his life has he been truly angry and I think it's because he's used this tool throughout his life.