From the moment we arrive in this world, we are aware of what all our senses tell us about our surroundings. When our mother’s arms embrace us and we feel warmth and a caring heart, we begin to feel peace, comfort and love in our new world.
What we are doing is learning, quite naturally, to allow ourselves to be more heart vulnerable. Now, heart vulnerability is not a process that produces what you may commonly associate with vulnerability – being open to hurt, injury or attack.
Neither is heart vulnerability being sentimental or mushy or trying to “do good” and letting others walk on you, or allowing another’s feelings to pull you down. Being heart vulnerable is staying solidly centered in your heart while you feel what’s really going on and listen to your common-sense heart intelligence.
Many people believe that while we are children, and even as adults, we retain the memory of that initial security we felt in the arms of a parent. Most of us know too that the trials and tribulations of life can make this a distant memory. When we start school or strike out on our own, it is natural to become more cautious in strange surroundings with new people and stimuli. When, however, we suffer heartbreak in love, lose a dear relative or friend or experience any of life’s pressing challenges, a great number of us instinctively insulate ourselves from the world. If we haven’t received external support, as we did in infancy, we frequently go to great lengths to protect ourselves: We may shut out our feelings, avoid relationships or grow bitter and angry.
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