Last night my husband said something that upset me. Instead of feeling helpless and obliged to go along with what he had said and eventually resentful, I actually told him that I disagreed.
A bit later I realised that I was really angry with him. As he came to me to apologise, I was preparing to tell him that I was angry. He apologised and wanted that to be the end of it, but I still harboured anger. So I told him I accepted his apology (which I do, because I know what he said wasn't intended to hurt) but that I needed to tell him I was angry. And I did need to because suddenly POOF! the anger disappeared. Just like that. Wonderful.
This may seem elemental to any of you reading it with an ounce of emotional intelligence, but for me it is amazing. Previously this anger would have been added to all the other festering wounds that I keep sealed away.

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well m too a victim ov anger... i dnt knw 4rm where it comes but it painz me...

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after being further hurt and mistreated in the past week, and making more mistakes, and bursting into anger at the very peron that caused this , i realize the whole thing is my fault for having anything to do with inappropriate ppl in the first place. now i am in a worse position, and have been further used. however, meditation and deep breathing , and forgiving myself, and realizing, it's not my fault, it's just pavlovian conditioning, i can heal this pain.and let it all go away, like clouds disappearing.....

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When our conscious is in control. We believe that no one can make us angry. I love the meditations I have read in The Power of Now and in my Yoga classs. To strengthen the immune system. Simply take the time to put all your attention on as many body parts you can think of. It could take 2-25 minutes. Then think of flowing light to refresh all of you. After attending Chopra's SynchroDestiny seminar, I was enlightened with the present. Let go of the past, don't worry of future; believe you are right where you are suppose to be, and enjoy the present moment. Read Chopra's book: Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire!

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I too have been a victim of Anger. Most of my life, I was not very angry, and I had no reason to harbor any anger. But, when it was only when I got married and had children, that my anger began to increase. Usually, anger would come from having a feeling of being helpless about a situation. Most of the time I express my anger all at once after holding in my feelings of frustration. So I would guess that communication and processing helps. Usually, I am the recipient of anger and there is no amount of communication to calm down the other party and I find myself not knowing what to do. That is when my own anger starts to build. That is also, when I feel disconnected from my non-local environment, as Deepok puts it.
It is indeed a conundrum and a potential vicious cycle that can only hurt me.
Of course, after some time and self meditation, I can rebuild my self esteem back up again, but, the potential problem is still looming and can pop out it's ugly head again.
Regards,
Rayed

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I've been angry for a long time as well, and its little wonder I have something called Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I married a very controling and selfish man and then after he died I had another one in my life for years. Now I have to take a good hard look at myself and ask myself if I can go on the rest of my life and chalk it all up to bad judgment and life experience. I do have things to be thankful for...I can see, walk and enjoy te simple things in life. These are often the best things to be sure. I enjoy people and that's good too. Life can be good but I've learned to look for the good things.

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Thank you. For over twelve years, I was tormented over anger. It took a quality decision for me to let it go, and I feel so much better. The most ironic thing is, the person who mis-treated me, and kindled the fire to the anger, didn't even remember me when I approached them. I was the one who was suffering, and they had no knowledge of it. So, over twelvel years my heart was skipping beats, my bloodpressure was going hay wire, and nobody was suffering but myself. It certainly feels good to have dropped the load. Anger is not worth the pain it causes the person who is angry.

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i love deepak chopra. i have to remember about the anger thing. i have become very very ill and homeless, even though many ppl did horrible things to me, i have to let it go, and go far away. i try to put into practice what he says, but still if the enviroment is very severly horrible, one must leave.

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As a Reiki Practioner and Massage Therapist, I see this in many clients. How stress and anger effect one's body. They go to doctors getting pain, anxiety or relaxations medications and their bodies seem to come up with more and more illnesses. Once you cover one symptom, your anger and stress with find new ways to tell you something is not right. I used to find myself when I got angry the side of my face would burn and my ears also. My body exploded. I realized all the damage anger could do. Thanks Depak!

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I have learned through my life that letting go of anger and hate can only help me in the end. "I know I can't hold the hate inside my mind
'Cause what consumes your thoughts controls your life" The song "What If" by Creed explains what can happen when you let your anger control your life. Sad thing is, most people who are consumed with anger really believe they are hurting the one they hold the anger against. My ex-husband is a miserable man because he will not let go of his hatred and anger against me. I let go of my anger and hatred years ago and I am at peace. My prayer is that he learns to be at peace as well. Loving and living is the only way.

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