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How Do You Tame Your Mind?

How Do You Tame Your Mind?

Unable to escape our toxic memories, people adapt to memories, adding one layer after another of impressions. The bottom layers, laid down in childhood, keep sending out their messages.

Stored memories are like microchips programmed to keep sending out the same message over and over. When you find yourself having a fixed reaction, the message has already been sent: It does no good to try to change the message. Yet this is exactly how the vast majority of people try to tame the mind. They receive a message they don’t like, and their reaction is one of three things.

1. Manipulation.

2. Control.

3. Denial.

If you look at them closely, it becomes clear that all three of these behaviors come after the fact. They deal with the mind’s disorder as the cause of the distress rather than as a symptom. These supposed solutions have tremendous negative effects.

Manipulation is getting what you want by ignoring or harming the desires of others. Manipulators use charm, persuasion, coaxing, trickery and misdirection. The underlying idea is, “I have to fool people to make them give me what I want.”

Control is forcing events and people into your way of doing things. Control is the great mask of insecurity. People who use this behavior are deathly afraid of letting others be who they are, so the controller is constantly making demands that keep others off balance. The underyling idea is, “If they keep paying attention to me, they won’t run away.”

Denial is looking past the problem instead of facing it. Psychologists consider denial the most childish of the three behaviors because it is so intimately linked to vulnerability. The person in denial feels helpless to solve problems, the way a young child feels. Fear is linked to denial, and so is a childlike need for love in the face of insecurity. The underlying idea is, “I don’t have to notice what I can’t change in the first place.”

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Adapted from The Book of Secrets, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2004). Reprinted by permission of the author.
Adapted from The Book of Secrets, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2004).

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Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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3:52AM PDT on Sep 1, 2012

Thanks

8:20AM PDT on Apr 9, 2012

good reminders

5:21PM PST on Mar 5, 2012

Thankyou

9:13PM PDT on May 20, 2011

Ta.

11:20PM PDT on Apr 23, 2011

Thankyou - but how do I fix it?

7:13PM PDT on Apr 20, 2011

This article is about what not to do. No where does he talk about how to tame your mind.

12:36PM PDT on Apr 19, 2011

Deepak is always so helpful!

5:20PM PDT on Apr 18, 2011

I must live in denial, some things I'm so afraid of but would not knowingly want to hurt others or do anything hurtfull to them.

1:26PM PDT on Apr 17, 2011

How do I tame the toxic memories in my mind? First, I acknowledge that I have them, then I try to use them to help others who might be suffering from the same kind of experiences...mainly children....by letting them know it is possible to survive bad things that happen, not only survive but be a better person than the ones who did you harm. I tame the toxins by not repeating them; I treat others with respect even if I don't agree with them. I also speak up for myself (and lots of children) when things happen that need to be taken care of. Life is not always easy but we must learn not to let it drag us down but to rise above the situations and the toxic experiences
and shine through. We can all shine, all we have to do is polish ourselves as often as we need to.

12:30PM PDT on Apr 17, 2011

I liked this excerpt so much I looked up the book on my library site and found it !! Awesome, libraries are such a great resource.

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