How in Control Are You of Your Finances?

A discussion about finances in books celebrating a woman’s worth may appear to put so much emphasis on monetary solvency that one could argue in favor of the money-equals-worth equation. But I sincerely hope you don’t reach this conclusion, because that is not the intent. Money doesn’t buy you worth any more than it can buy you love. However, you would be wise to recognize that one’s personal bank account–your money in the bank, gives you options that you don’t have without it–freedom, autonomy, independence and personal power. Please use the following questions to think about where you are in your path to financial independence.

  • Am I dependent upon others for my livelihood? What can I do to buck-up my own financial security?
  • Am I comfortable with the salary I’m receiving? If not, when will I ask for a raise?
  • What can I do to feel more in control of my finances?
  • Was your mom a stay-at-home mom, or did she also work outside the home?
  • Do you think that men and women should share household duties equally?
  • Did your teacher usually ask boys to answer the math questions?
  • Were you encouraged to study medicine, science or engineering?
  • Did you grow up planning to pursue a career in addition to having a family, or were you raised to think the two were mutually exclusive?
  • Were you taught to handle your own finances, or was this always controlled by someone else?
  • What compensation do I receive for the work I do at home? Is it equitable? If not, what would I change?
  • Do you and your spouse/partner place an appropriate value on your contributions? provides content and community for who you aspire to be–personally, socially and globally.

Cheryl Saban, Ph.D.,

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Winn Adams
Winn Adams2 years ago


Samantha Hodder
Sam Hodder3 years ago


Ben Oscarsito
Ben Oscarsito3 years ago

FFL!!! : ~ [

Vanessa C.
Vanessa C.4 years ago

Thanks for these tips Cheryl...^_^

Robert O.
Robert O.4 years ago

I'd be in better control of my finances if I didn't live hand to mouth thanks to stagnant wages and rising costs and if the government was in control of its own spending and didn't constantly have to raise taxes on the already overburdended middle class in order to make up for it's own fiscal irresponsibility.

pat B.
pat B.5 years ago

SS is secure for decades .
If it does become non secure , it will because Congress raided it .

pat B.
pat B.5 years ago

Cecily ,
So a mom who stayed home to run the household and raised children should be punished by having half benefits taken away ?Would you rather children have no oversight and all become latch key kids ?
You should concern yourself with the fact that all these endless oil wars and the bailout of Wall St are bankrupting our country .Actually we are.Do not denigrate people who stay at home .They work harder in most cases than 9 to fivers .

Peggy L.
Peggy L.5 years ago

Thank you for posting! Luckily I grew up with great role models and I'm very responsible with money.

Marianne Good
Past Member 5 years ago

Interesting, It is beneficial to keep the finacial overview up to date often!

Jessica G.
Jessica G.5 years ago

Still under my parents. thanks