Most of us have good insights about what we need to change. But those pesky repeating mental patterns that result in stress, damaged relationships or other unwanted outcomes can make it difficult to act on or sustain a positive change.
If you’re like me, you’ve probably been through the following scenario many times: You feel the need for a change and get that “ah ha” insight on what to do and you’re motivated; then a challenging situation arises and you go through the same mechanical response that has stopped you before and start doubting your decision. Or you try acting on the insight for a bit, then get distracted or forget, and you slip back. So things keep on going the way they have been and dissatisfaction with yourself sets in.
I found that by using these 4 steps, you can actually “anchor” a good insight you’ve had so you increase your ability to act on it, rather than allow it to fade away.
Step 1: Appreciate the insight. Really pause to appreciate this new perspective, intelligence or common sense that you now can bring to bear on a situation or issue.
Step 2: Appreciate any positive feelings associated with the insight. Appreciation of these feelings, perhaps hope and peace, gives the insight more significance in your feeling world, making it easier to recall.
Step 3: Write down the insight and revisit it daily, with appreciation. This keeps the insight fresh, helps you continue to invest it with feeling, and keeps inspiration and hope for change alive.
Step 4: Go for it. Go beyond “I know I should” and make the change – because you see the intelligence of it. To add to your power to quickly shift your attitude if you feel old patterns or resistances come up, read Attitude Replacements article.
You can increase your momentum of positive change by looking for opportunities to act on your insight, and asking your heart intuition to prompt you to do so when those situations arise. View these situations as opportunities to solidify your new way of responding.
If you slip back into old habits, appreciate yourself for noticing that you did, because that’s a more efficient use of your energy than feeling bad. Then make genuine attempts to recall and appreciate the original insight and renew your efforts.
Every time you act on your insight, appreciate that you have done so and anchor the reference point.
Research shows that generating positive emotions can help you reinforce your success. The more you feel and act on your insight, the more your intuitive intelligence will reveal how to handle a situation more skillfully.