How to Get Unstuck

To be free, you must find a way to let go of all the stuck energy that keeps sending out the same old messages. The ability to let go is more complex than it sounds, but nothing is more crucial. Letting go of anger and fear requires a process, which includes the following:

Be alert. Don’t ignore your feelings when you are angry or anxious. Resist the impulse to look away and shove your feelings back down out of sight. The more alert you are, the easier it will be to access stuck energy and let it go.

Be objective. If you identify personally with negativity, you will never let it go. Learn to see anger as only energy, like electricity. Electricity isn’t about you. Neither is anger. It’s universal and sticks to anything that seems unfair or unjust. Fear sticks to anything that feels dangerous or unsafe.

Detach from the specifics. Energies get stuck to particular situations: A specific person rams your car from the rear, butts in line ahead of you at the supermarket, or cheats you out of money. These are the contents of the situation, its specifics, and you cannot completely let go of energy by living solely in those moments. Imagine having a fight with your spouse. You are sure you’re justified in your position. But if you refuse to stop being angry until your spouse says, “I was wrong; you were right all along,” you could wait forever. And even if he does apologize, your anger might not completely disappear. Detach from the contents of the situation and release your anger by yourself, for your own good.

Take responsibility. This goes hand in hand with detachment. Your energy is yours and nobody else’s. In spiritual terms, it doesn’t matter who is right or wrong, who is the aggressor or the victim. The only important thing is how to win your own freedom. In a world of opposites, right and wrong are engaged in an eternal struggle. Your role is to let go of energy that has stuck to you for whatever reason. Once you take responsibility, you won’t be tossed about at the whim of circumstance.

Don’t expect anyone to do it for you. There is certainly such a thing as divine guidance, but the road to freedom is through the self. Most of us hope to gain strength from other people, not some divine agency. Yet there is no getting around the fact that all you have for the spiritual journey is your own mind, body, and soul. As much as others can offer solace and helpful wishes, only you can embark on the journey inside yourself.

Let your body participate. Letting go isn’t just a mental process. In fact, you have metabolized your past and given it sanctuary in your body. Or as someone put it simply, “The issues are in the tissues.” Many kinds of bodywork and purification therapies can be useful here. To begin with, let your body do what it wants to do. It knows how to tremble with fear and convulse with anger. Don’t resist the body’s natural reactions, but don’t inflict them on someone else, either. Throwing off stuck energy is a private process that belongs to you alone.

Explore and discover. I don’t want to imply that the spiritual journey involves laborious effort undertaken in solitude. Quite the contrary. Nothing is more fascinating than finding out who you really are, and what you are really about. The vast majority of people live secondhand lives. All they know about themselves is what others tell them; the voices they hear in their heads come from the past; their vision of possibilities amounts to what they were taught at school, in church, and in the family. The past creates unresolved energy. The need to conform creates a fear of breaking free. Fortunately, to the extent that you let go of these old energies, you will win a new bit of freedom.

Value freedom above everything. I said earlier that we all hear two impulses -inside ourselves. One says, “This is what I want to do,” the other says, “This is what I’d better do.” The first is the voice of freedom; the second is the voice of fear. The divine plan is infinitely complex, but when it comes down to each person, it’s infinitely simple. You get to be whoever you want to be; you get to do whatever you want to do. That’s not the same as what your ego wants you to be or what your fantasies urge you to do. Spiritual freedom releases you into infinite Being. Then and only then will you encounter the real you. At that moment, all that you wanted to be in the past will be seen as a temporary impulse. And each impulse to be free will been seen to be leading you in the right direction.

Adapted from Why is God Laughing? by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2008).


Michael H.
Mike H.2 years ago

Thanks for sharing this

Elisa F.
Elisa F.2 years ago

Great Advice. Thanks for Sharing.

Gaby D.
Gaby D.4 years ago

Goodday Deepak, this post is from the the 1st of December! Yet, for some reason I decided to look at my inbox to see if there were any Soular Energy posts I'd missed!
Bingo.....this one is one of them, and I do feel like sharing that I too realize 'there's still work to do'....and most probably, there will always be work to do! Be alert, be objective, detach from the specifics, take responsibility, let your body participate, explore and discover and value freedom above everything!! Wow, that's quite a list! That's daily work - and practice. Perhaps we should learn a 'prayer' as children.....that teaches us these 'steps' I have a few issuses in the tissues.and my daily little and not so little challenges....(as we all do I'm sure)...that I need to work on......will use this list and hey ho hey ho it's of to work we go! And Myra....I so relate to your post! Tks for sharing.....and the same to Jewels! You and I are on the same 'reading list' I have just started on the Book of Secrets! Perhaps we should start a bookclub!:-) Namaste

Marie Therese Hanulak

A really helpful article. Now to put it in practice.

Jewels S.
Jewels S.4 years ago

I have been stuck for over 15 yrs since my brother died and my heart was broken by another human that was hurting but could not heal the hurt so he hurt me. I keep trying but I just get thrown back when something bad happens. I am reading Deepak's " The book of secrets" and trying again. I will have to read " Why is God@ laughing after I finish that. I pray my guides will help me do what I seem to not have been able to do all these years, get unstuck from the suffering. It really is in the tissue because I see how it keeps popping back up at me. Good luck and peace to all those going through this.

Zee Kallah
Past Member 4 years ago

It's all about making the right choices.

Beverly G.
bev g.4 years ago

thk u so much for this.

Beverly G.
bev g.4 years ago

thk u so much for this.

Holly Lawrence
Holly Lawrence4 years ago

Great info - thanks!

heather g.
heather g.4 years ago

That was an excellent choice of excerpt from your book, Deepak. I re-read this, realizing that our inner work may become easier with time, but it never stops.