How to Handle Father’s Day When Dad Has Passed Away

For those who’ve lost their father, June’s annual day of celebration can morph into a time of magnified mourning. But the holiday also offers an opportunity to deal with the grief of a beloved father’s absence, while honoring the memory of his spirit.

Write him a letter

Writing can be a cathartic exercise, regardless of where you are in the grieving process. Compose some prose about your dadó talk about how he made you feel, memories you shared, things you wish you’d had the opportunity to tell him. You may even want to peruse the greeting card aisles and purchase a Father’s Day card to go along with the note.

Give him a gift

Just because your father has passed doesn’t mean that you can’t give him a gift that will contribute to his enduring legacy. Volunteer or donate money to his favorite charity in his name. If he didn’t have a preferred cause, choose an organization related to something he was passionate about. For instance, if your father loved camping along the banks of the local river, you could spend some time picking up trash in that area.

Help his legacy live on

Recruit other family members and friends who knew your father well and have them share their thoughts and memories of him. You may decide to put together a memory book by having people send in their anecdotes and photos, or just get together around the dining room table to tell stories. Below are some tributes, written by family caregivers, in honor of their departed fathers:

“I see my dad in my children. How proud my father would be. Dad wasn’t rich or famous but the legacy he left can’t be measured. The love and nurturing he had for me has passed down to my son and now his daughter. This is my tribute to the greatest man I’ve ever known, my dad.”

“My father was a family man. He worked hard at a job he hated to provide for his wife and children. The harshest words I ever heard coming out of my father’s mouth toward my mother was to call her a ‘birdbrain.’ I remember my father kissing my mother passionately right in the middle of the kitchen, in broad daylight…in front of us kids. My father taught me how to think for myself, to stand on my own two feet, to hold a good moral compass and to value family.”

“He was always so encouraging. He was meticulous, and as neat as he could be. When he cooked, and served he would make the plate sing by decorating it and it seemed to come alive. He was the most compassionate person I have ever known. I loved to see him shine his shoes and always looked for that in a man, (silly I know but to me there’s nothing like shiny shoes). He loved his family, loved his job and was wonderful at supplying for his family.”

“My dad was wonderful. I adored him and still to this day. He was kind, gentle and caring. He set a good example. He had a heart of gold. He loved me unconditionally. The day he died was the saddest day of my life. He lives on in me and my kids and we feel so blessed to have had him in our lives.”

“I have a lot of good memories of my dad enough to write a book, but when I think of my father, fairness, caring and integrity come to mind. It makes me feel good all of the good things and good deeds my dad did in his life. He taught me loyalty. He taught me how to never give up or give in. He taught me the value of a tree, a fish and the smallest and weakest of creatures. He taught me not to be afraid of death or anything else, but to live life to the fullest. He taught me be self-employed and self-reliant and never get stuck in a job that wasn’t worth doing. He taught me not to judge people by income or race, but by their good deeds. He was a true gentleman and was also a role model for many a young man.”

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By Anne-Marie Botek, AgingCare.com Editor

259 comments

Chad Anderson
Chad Anderson10 days ago

I hope that I do not need to practice this too soon.

Siyus Copetallus
Siyus Copetallus11 days ago

Thank you for sharing.

federico bortoletto

Grazie per la condivisione.

Jim Ven
Jim Ven16 days ago

thanks for the article.

Danuta Watola
Danuta Watola18 days ago

Thank you for sharing.

Karen F.
Karen F.18 days ago

Remember those good times.

sharon ogden
sharon ogden19 days ago

thanks xxx

Jim Ven
Jim Ven19 days ago

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