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How to Really Get Happy

As my friend, Tim Ferriss, writes in his bestselling business book, The 4 Hour Work Week, we’re all too quick to “postpone the intense self-examination and decision-making necessary to create a life of enjoyment.” What do we do instead? Distract ourselves with the idea that more money (or losing weight, or getting married) will make us happy.

So what’s the fastest way to really “really” figure out what makes you a happy camper?

Start a list. (Groan) I know, I know. Another list, just what you need. But seriously. You make excruciatingly detailed lists for the grocery store, the IRS, and your wedding. The least you could do is write down a few things that led directly to joy on your part. None of this “the end justifies the means” stuff (you’re not allowed to write anything that “might one day” make you happy. It has to create contentment right then and there).

And stop with the big things. “My apartment…” is too vague. “My boyfriend…” is too general. What about your apartment makes you happy? The way the light streams through the windows at 7:30 a.m.? The fact that you can’t hear your neighbors…ever? Your tiny little balcony, on which you fell asleep last Saturday night, on a blanket, because no chairs fit out there? That’s the sort of thing you should write down.

If you get stuck, think of this very cheesy reminder: Maria in The Sound of Music, singing about “her favorite things.” It seems a bit juvenile, but I promise, as you write down the silly little pieces of life that truly make you happy, I bet you’ll realize you’re happier than you think. And as you do, you’ll begin to notice that happiness is a choice…and it’s a positive feedback loop. As you choose to see the little things that bring you joy, you’ll start to see more of them, which will in turn, make you happier.

I remember reading somewhere that “happiness requires cultivation.” Take the time to cultivate your happiness. After all, what could be more important than that?

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10:33AM PST on Dec 28, 2013

Thanks for sharing.

4:17PM PDT on Jun 23, 2011

Very nice. Thanks.

7:06AM PDT on Mar 23, 2011

That depends on your definition of happiness.

5:58AM PDT on Mar 23, 2011

nice article

5:54AM PDT on Mar 23, 2011

we all need more joy in our lives.

11:46PM PDT on Mar 22, 2011


8:22AM PST on Feb 15, 2011

Great info! Thank you.

8:20PM PST on Jan 5, 2011

I love April's idea! :)
Thanks for the article!

9:28AM PST on Jan 2, 2011

I enjoyed this article. Thank you

3:00PM PST on Dec 31, 2010

thanks for that

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