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How to Really Love Someone

How to Really Love Someone

“Love,” like “Happiness” can be hard to explain.

But the great writer Ernest Hemingway came very close to expressing the essence of love.

When you love you wish to do things for. You wish to sacrifice for. You wish to serve.”  A Farewell to Arms

To that, I would add that you wish to do for and to give … without expecting anything in return.

“Only love that continues to flow in the face of anger, blame, and indifference can be called love. All else is simply a transaction.” says Vironika Tugaleva, author of The Love Mindset.

Let not your love for another become a transaction. When you give someone a smile, a hug, kind words, a listening ear, an understanding shoulder, money, support — give them because you truly want to. My father often quoted the Urdu words “Neki kar, darya mein dal.” It simply means “Do a good deed, and then toss it into the river.” I have tried to follow that in my life, because I believe that expectations can rob love of its purity and beauty.

  • Let us give our love for free, as often as we can, as much as we can.
  • Let us sometimes pause to self-correct on the beautiful path of love.
  • Let us love because we feel love, not because we expect or need love.

What, according to you, is the right way to love someone? I would love to hear your views.


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Shubhra Krishan

Writer, editor and journalist Shubhra Krishan is the author of Essential Ayurveda: What it is and what it can do for you (New World Library, 2003), Radiant Body, Restful Mind: A Woman's book of comfort (New World Library, 2004), and The 9 to 5 Yogi: How to feel like a sage while working like a dog (Hay House India, 2011).


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11:27PM PDT on Aug 16, 2014

Thank you :)

5:59AM PDT on Aug 12, 2014

Thank you.

5:07AM PDT on Aug 11, 2014

Life IS the School of Love and unless we experience love for our self and detachment from our own story we will continue to mix being in a need to receive love and real love which is a state of being.

3:32AM PDT on Aug 11, 2014

Thanks interesting.

6:53PM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

Love is caring for the other person's needs. Giving all you can to make that person happy. As for a husband and wife it means wanting to spend all your time making them happy and spending as much time together as possible, but also letting them be themselves and have the alone time they need. Do not smother them. Giving your love to another will bring love back to you. Only then can two people be happy with each other.

4:44PM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

Helping someout in need of money, or a service of some kind, with no other motivation other than to help them, opens up your heart to love them more. Feeling gratitude for even the little things others do for you, helps you love more.

1:04PM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

Forwarded to everyone who can use it and should be interested, Thanks for posting

11:30AM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

your article is excellent! perfectly expresses my feelings about love ... to be moved to give unconditionally.

10:41AM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

True love is hard to find.

4:34AM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

Thank you

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