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Valentine’s Day Challenge: 14 Gestures of Love

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Valentine’s Day Challenge: 14 Gestures of Love

By Monica Wilcox

My single girlfriend has been counting down the days until Valentine’s Day since mid-January, as if it’s a court date for a romantic misdemeanor. Now that the calendar is flashing February, she’s warped herself into a V-day panic. WHAT will she do with herself on this dreaded day? Sit alone in her condo, slurping bowls of Special K, watching reruns of Sex and the City? Huddle in a crowded bar with her single girl posse? For Anita, “love” has become a battle hymn.

Here’s the odd thing, I’m just as disgruntled with Valentine’s Day, even though I deeply love my husband of 18 years. Manufactured romance just doesn’t do it for me; like a Husky pulling the Hallmark sled, dashing to the store for some F.C.C (flowers, chocolates, and a card). Spending around $128 (men average $166 while women average $90) before my husband and I retire to a restaurant to suffer through a 90 minute wait for a small table near the kitchen. Valentine’s Day is as poorly scripted as a XXX flick.

Somewhere along the way (probably when caveman A noticed cavewoman A kept dragging flowers into their cave) we got off track in this love thing. We’ve stopped listening to the call of our hearts, beating the same song every moment of the year: love, love, love. Tell me that love, to give AND to receive, is not your life’s highest purpose? That’s the IT, the WHOLE, the ALL: just love. If you were to unabashedly love every day until the end, would that not be a life well lived? Would that be love well owned? And here is the miracle, you don’t have to have “romance” to experience love, because you’ve got loads of impressive stuff within you waiting to be loved, and if you’ve already paid homage to your own soul, there are a trillion other life forms on this planet ready to share your heart.

The Challenge

Don’t let another day pass, February or not, before you open your heart. I’m challenging you to commit to 14 gestures of love over the next 14 days; simple gestures that pack a lot of love with a minimal amount of effort. If you promise not to let a lack of a mate stop you, I’ll promise I won’t let having a long-term mate stop me. Can you imagine where this could take our spirits, our energy, and our lives if we were to really celebrate the greatest emotion we will ever share? Go ahead; let’s toss our love pebble out to see how far the rings will travel.

The Doing — Love Thyself

To hear “I LOVE YOU!” from your own heart — it took me a long time to hear that, entirely too long. To know that you are more than enough — just as you are, before the name or titles, the relationships and achievements — is one of the hardest and mightiest things we can grasp. I believe to be on this planet as a mysterious bulk of biological mass working in perfect synchronicity, is a gift of love in and of itself; a chance to experience, learn anew, feel, and sense. Consider this — I can sense the power of an ocean through the tide crashing on my purple painted toenails…sipping a fruity drink…eating chocolate. Now that’s a Valentine!

Are you squeamish at the idea of loving your own soul first and foremost? Don’t you think it’s time, (cue The Judds) don’t you think it’s time? Close your eyes, take a deep gut busting breath and speak the words “I love you.” Take another deep breath, and think these words, then think them three more times. Now sit in silence and say it not with your mind or your voice, but with your heart. There, see how sweet self love is — and it was calorie free and didn’t require a reservation. You’ve already accomplished your first gesture of love.

Now let’s get creative. Write a love letter to your soul. Spend an extra hour one morning trying a new hairstyle. Take a nap in the grass and sunshine at the city park. Plant your favorite inspirational quotes in the pockets of your summer clothes. Give yourself that romantic gesture you’ve always hoped someone else would do for you? Why wait another day to tell your soul how happy you are to BE?

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1:11AM PST on Nov 9, 2014

Thank you!

12:14PM PST on Jan 24, 2014

I like this :) Thanks for sharing.

11:44PM PDT on Apr 10, 2012

great concept!! thx.

5:21AM PDT on Mar 25, 2012

Thanks for the article.

3:17AM PST on Feb 9, 2012

Thanks for the article.

12:09PM PST on Feb 8, 2012

My boyfriend and I are going to the beach where we first fell in love with a bottle of wine and a few snacks. No one should feel pressure on Valentine's Day. You should show your respect and love every single day. Paying it forward is a great way to show that you love yourself enough to share your blessings with a stranger. Spirit blessings to all.

6:58PM PST on Feb 6, 2012

Im sorry I cant say 'I love you' to a stranger but, Thank you.
Your article is a great reminder to tell everyone I do love, that I love them.
I would like to blow you a kiss though. x

4:55PM PST on Feb 6, 2012

I wish I had got to this earlier... I will start now...

4:50PM PST on Feb 6, 2012

What a wonderful idea!

3:30PM PST on Feb 6, 2012

We are 6 days into this challenge (it's never too late to start) and so many of you have come up with some pretty amazing ideas. I've seen people doing this challenge buying military personal a cup of coffee, others are sharing old pics on Facebook, or Tweeting out a "you rock" message to someone they admire.

Glad to see hundreds of people are having fun and letting their creativity run wild!! Don't stop now!!

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fantastic idea.

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