Tips For Handling Criticism
- Be careful whose opinions matter to you. If someone lashes out, consider the source. Does this person know and love you? Do they have your best interests at heart and genuinely wish you well? Might their criticism stem from jealousy or fear or the fact that you represent something that, if itís true, threatens the very bedrock of their entire existence? Unless the criticism arises from someone who has proven to be a trustworthy mentor, take it with a grain of salt.
- Know yourself enough to know what is true for you. The criticisms that sting the most are the ones we know are true but havenít managed to heal. Approach those criticisms as the diamonds they are, and let them be rocket fuel for self-healing, personal growth, and a better life.
- Ignore the Anonymous rant. Remember that the internet is a super duper easy way for people who are mad at the world and feeling powerless to dump a load of crap on you in order to try to make themselves feel better. If someone isnít ballsy enough to use their real name when they rip you a new asshole, ignore it.
- Be your biggest fan. A healthy sense of self prepares you to smile through a lot of criticism because as long as you know youíre awesome, youíll be cool as a cucumber, even amidst a firestorm. So let your Inner Pilot Light shine, baby. Know your value inside and out, and donít make it dependent on what anybody else thinks.
- Donít let fear of criticism hold you back. If youíre so busy worrying what everybody will think, youíre not going to soar to the heights of fabulousness I know youíre capable of. So distance yourself a bit. Practice non-attachment. Get a little zen about the whole thing. Pull back. Chill out. Tune out. Know whatís true for you. Rock it, sunshine!
How Do You Handle Criticism?
Tell us what you thinkÖand feel free to tell me Iím awesome or lash out with venom. It wonít bother me either way.
Humming to my own tune,
Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of†OwningPink.com,†Pink Medicine Revolutionary,†motivational speaker, and author of†Whatís Up Down There? Questions Youíd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.
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