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How To Soldier On Amidst Criticism

Tips For Handling Criticism

  1. Be careful whose opinions matter to you. If someone lashes out, consider the source. Does this person know and love you? Do they have your best interests at heart and genuinely wish you well? Might their criticism stem from jealousy or fear or the fact that you represent something that, if itís true, threatens the very bedrock of their entire existence? Unless the criticism arises from someone who has proven to be a trustworthy mentor, take it with a grain of salt.
  2. Know yourself enough to know what is true for you. The criticisms that sting the most are the ones we know are true but havenít managed to heal. Approach those criticisms as the diamonds they are, and let them be rocket fuel for self-healing, personal growth, and a better life.
  3. Ignore the Anonymous rant. Remember that the internet is a super duper easy way for people who are mad at the world and feeling powerless to dump a load of crap on you in order to try to make themselves feel better. If someone isnít ballsy enough to use their real name when they rip you a new asshole, ignore it.
  4. Be your biggest fan. A healthy sense of self prepares you to smile through a lot of criticism because as long as you know youíre awesome, youíll be cool as a cucumber, even amidst a firestorm. So let your Inner Pilot Light shine, baby. Know your value inside and out, and donít make it dependent on what anybody else thinks.
  5. Donít let fear of criticism hold you back. If youíre so busy worrying what everybody will think, youíre not going to soar to the heights of fabulousness I know youíre capable of. So distance yourself a bit. Practice non-attachment. Get a little zen about the whole thing. Pull back. Chill out. Tune out. Know whatís true for you. Rock it, sunshine!


How Do You Handle Criticism?

Tell us what you thinkÖand feel free to tell me Iím awesome or lash out with venom. It wonít bother me either way.

Humming to my own tune,


Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of†,†Pink Medicine Revolutionary,†motivational speaker, and author of†Whatís Up Down There? Questions Youíd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.

Learn more about†Lissa Rankin here.


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Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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8:54PM PST on Feb 16, 2014

Thanks for sharing.

6:54AM PST on Jan 11, 2013


12:52AM PST on Jan 10, 2013

Good article (I sincerely mean it) with a lot of truths. I can take criticism provided that it's constructive and not just an attack disguised as criticsm. I'm very careful about careful whose opinions matter to me since most ofthe criticm I get comes from people that hate my guts but act like they don't and pretend they care about what's best for me when in reality they only care about what's best for me only as it pertains to what's best for them.

2:02PM PST on Mar 5, 2012


11:26AM PST on Mar 5, 2012

It's important to stay grounded and centered. I'm lucky that I don't usually have to deal with a lot of irrational negative feedback, but when it happens it usually rolls right off. Thanks for the article!

1:39AM PST on Mar 5, 2012

i had that happen on care 2 this week while i get nice feedback most of the time i met a nasty person through this community who nearly had me packing up my gears and going home so to speak but then i realised there lashing out at me had more to do with how unhappy they were with themselves that they felt they needed to bring me down with them. it brought a smile to my face to realise i actualy didnt need this persons negativity and was able to shrug it off and keep going.

thanks for the article it just backed up everything i was already thinking and feeling

7:03PM PST on Mar 4, 2012

I have found that the more energetically open you become, the less interested you are in conflicts or personal dramas. Some people just seem to want to fight about near everything, and others believe everything is terribly personal and can't seperate them selves from what they believe so if you disagree with them they are offended.I've started to avoid them when possible and extract myself from the conversation as soon as I realize that all they want to do is steal my attention by pulling me into a power struggle.I've also found that real compassion arises on it's own when you've acknowledged your true feelings first. Trying to be compassionate by suppressing your true feels doesn't work for long, and tollerance does not mean putting up with bad behavior. It means making space to allow people to change, but first you've got to let it be known what is not acceptable to you.

2:21AM PST on Mar 3, 2012

Sometimes one reads an article that feels like a personal message. That's what I felt after the experience I had today and then reading this article.
I do know myself well and always used to be able to stand my ground very firmly and assertively. Now, I often find that difficult to do because some people I unfortunately need to mix with regularly often have unstable mood swings and shout and fight amongst themselves. They appear to be unhappy about their lives and, to me, appear not to have any self-respect. I can't bear shouting, so let them make a fool of themselves then disappear as soon as possible. Have also responded with : "You have the wrong person. I can hear you are very angry, but, regretfully, I don't feel like fighting." Then walk away.
I wear my heart on my sleeve but don't want to give them the satisfaction of knowing that they have briefly upset me. I hope I never take on a miserable, aggressive personality....

10:47PM PST on Mar 2, 2012

awesome article, very helpful

9:04AM PST on Mar 1, 2012


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