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13 Dos & Don’ts for the Doctor’s Office

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13 Dos & Don’ts for the Doctor’s Office

Originally published on April 13,2012, on bedsider.org

Talking about sex can be tough enough in bed—even worse in a doctor’s office. Fortunately there are some dos and don’ts to make your visit easier and more productive for you and your health care provider.*

Part 1: Before the visit (Prepare, prepare, prepare…)
There are a few simple things you can do before seeing your provider to make sure you get the most out of the visit:

Do get organized. Pay attention to how you’re feeling in the weeks before the visit, including whether your period is regular. Jot down notes about anything unusual. You should have the start-date of your last period on hand for your appointment, as well as a list of any medications you’re already taking, including correct name, daily dose, who prescribed it, and why you’re taking it. Don’t forget about over-the-counter and complementary/alternative medicines.

Do know your stuff. If there are specific medications you’re interested in, make sure to have information about them handy for your appointment. If you’re interested in getting on birth control or switching methods, think about what methods might work best for you. We have a comparison tool that allows you to print information about up to three methods to bring to your appointment.

Don’t self-diagnose. While it’s super helpful for you to do your homework and go to your appointment prepared to talk about meds or methods you think could be a fit for you, you also need to be ready to listen to and consider your provider’s recommendations. Internet research is a wonderful thing, but your provider went to school for a really long time and should have valuable insight to offer as you decide what’s best for you health-wise.

Part 2: During the visit (Get active and give details.)
It’s important to be an “active” patient when you visit your health care provider—you are your own best advocate, after all. Understanding how a typical visit goes can make that easier. Most visits break down into four stages—subjective history, objective exam, assessment, and plan of care. A few things to think about in each stage:

Stage 1: Sharing time!
This is when you tell your provider what’s ailing you and what you need his/her help with. Go ahead and whip out those notes you made before the visit…

Do go into detail. We’re not saying to describe every moment of your morning cuddle session, but health care providers work best with specifics, so don’t be shy about sharing information that could be relevant to your health care. A few good ways to get specific with your provider:

  • Speak in headlines. Make sure you’re prepared (um, did we mention notes?) to tell your provider why you’re there, what your symptoms are, when your symptoms started, and which symptoms are bothering you most.
  • Use a scale of 1-10. The 1-10 scale is universal code for anything health-related. It usually refers to the degree or intensity—10 being the most intense and 1 being the least—so neither end of the scale is necessarily good or bad. The scale can be useful when your provider asks you questions like: “What’s your period been like since you got your ParaGard?” And you can answer: “It’s been really heavy—on a scale of 1-10, normally it’s about a 4. Lately it’s been more like a 7. My cramps are at an 8—normally I’d say they’re at a 6.”

Do make sure you have a chance to ask questions. Some providers might want to wait till after they examine you (stage 2 below) to answer your questions. Others might assume that if you have questions, you’ll ask them at the beginning of the visit. Never hurts to check with a simple “I have a few questions—will there be time to ask them later or is now a good time?”

Don’t beat around the bush. Studies suggest that many patients wait until their third question to bring up what they really want to talk about with their provider. Break the cycle and tackle your priority questions first. Your provider will appreciate your directness and it’ll mean more time for answers!

Don’t worry about being judged. Whatever you have to say, your provider has probably heard it before. If you get signals that your provider’s belief system could be a barrier to communication, try saying something like, “I have something personal to talk to you about,” or “this is hard for me to bring up, but…”. This signals to the provider that the topic is important to you and you need a thoughtful response. If your provider responds in a judgmental way, or if at any point in the visit your provider says something you think is wrong, hurtful, or confusing, speak up and say how you’re feeling.

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5:46PM PST on Nov 16, 2012

And one more thing...

Just remember that the waiting room is largely filled with sick people. Think twice about picking up that two year old copy of Newsweek.

10:28AM PST on Nov 14, 2012

It may have been a little helpful to indicate that the link you provided was for birth control.

I really need to find a general practioner in NorthCentral IN and I'm having a horrible time trying to find one. The one I just went to did exactly what Stella talked about. She pointed her finger at me at snidely told me. "You are dangerous on the computer. You should not ever go on the computer.". I felt uncomfortable and don't believe I could have been compelled under any circumstance to be honest with her.
I asked at the local hospital I had tests done at, but all anyone would tell me was "They're all pretty good around here."
How does one find a good fit when relocate? All the women I know are young w/kids and use their pediatrician or gyno. Even the older woman across the hall tells me she just goes to the ER. (got to get out of this apt. building!)

3:25PM PDT on Oct 30, 2012

Good advice but I would add one more thing -- Don't be intimidated that your doctor is "the expert". You know your body better than anyone. If something feels wrong, it probably is. Don't put up with a doctor who is patronizing or dismissive.

2:35PM PDT on Oct 28, 2012

thanks so much. very helpful

1:59AM PDT on Oct 26, 2012

thanks

6:53PM PDT on Oct 24, 2012

Helpful information thanks.

6:37PM PDT on Oct 24, 2012

Thanks, good advice!

10:45AM PDT on Oct 21, 2012

good points.

12:00PM PDT on Oct 20, 2012

I wish that I had read this article prior to my new patient doctor's appointment scheduled yesterday; but I guess I did OK bc I seem to have been able to discuss immediate concerns. I am satisfied with my choice of new physician bc she took the time to ask me questions, seemingly the "right" questions so that a realistic true health status profile became apparent. It's been my experience in the past that many doctors "operate" (pun intended) by their own training bias & preconceived notions rather than discovering what's important to the patient. I believe I have been successful in my search for a new doctor in finding one who does not do this.
Just a personal aside, I believe this article had too much content related to birth control & female reproductive issues for a general reading audience. After all, males do take up the other half the sky; and, some females like me no longer have reproductive concerns. Need I disclose that my new doctor's specialty is geriatrics (sigh)? Now, I'm going to go read that other article I saw about finding a good doctor after 50. Thanks for this!

3:38PM PDT on Oct 19, 2012

thanks

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