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I Am A Supremacist

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I Am A Supremacist

Someone asked me today how my book tour was going, and I found myself answering, Im alive. As soon as I said it, I realize how negative that sounds. When someone asks how were doing and we say Im alive, it implies that were barely more than dead. But when I said it, I honestly meant that I feel super-duper alive — in the full realm of human experience way. As in, I feel real. I feel raw. I dont feel numb or flatlined, in any way.

What this means is that Im good — and bad. Im giddy and grieving. Im excited and disappointed and passionate and sexy and self-reflective and curious and frustrated and open. I feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. I feel called and appreciated. I am ALIVE. What more can we as humans ask for?

Yet, there’s a reason we seek to numb ourselves.

When we feel fully alive, we find ourselves faced with parts of ourselves we might prefer to keep under wraps. The other night, I barely slept because I found myself faced with something I didnt want to look at. It was one of those dark nights of the souls — you know the ones. When you find yourself staring at the ceiling at 3:00am while the voice of your inner critic chatters away, empowered by the darkness in the room. You question everything and find yourself lacking. Every bit of your self confidence drains out and youre left in that dimly-lit cave of yourself, the one where you stuff everything youd prefer not the see, the stuff you hope NOBODY ever sees. Yeah. That place.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of theWhole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author ofMind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself. She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself. Lissa blogs atLissaRankin.com and also created two online communities -HealHealthCareNow.com andOwningPink.com. She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.

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6:22PM PST on Jan 5, 2011

Yep, people choose to be where they are and don't need to be hoisted up to what level we think they should be. Words to live by, for ourselves as individuals and on a national level. We are free to persue our happiness whatever that be, but we are not guaranteed to achieve it, nor should it be given to us. It loses it's value.

5:57AM PST on Nov 19, 2010

It is never easy to see ourselves as others see us. It is even harder to see ourselves as we really are. They are rarely the same thing and it can take a lot of difficult searching to understand where they are the same and why they might be different.

I believe that as humans we can simply strive for "better". Perfection is not attainable, it is non-existent. We are ALL at least occasionally judgmental, "tolerant", thoughtless and even cruel. We are ALL also charitable, loving, thoughtful and kind. Give yourself, and everyone else a break. Over-thinking our motives and behaviour can all too often lead to mental illness, and is really still just keeping the focus on ourselves instead of others. It is by living life that we find contentment, not staying awake nights thinking about our "faults".

5:38PM PST on Nov 18, 2010

No, you are not the only superamacist out there. I believe if we took an honest look in our hearts, we would all find a supremacist lurking around somewhere inside (we all judge whether we cop to the truth of it or not). Having said that, what a brutally honest self-observation. Kudos, kiddo, for having the courage to own it, let alone and say it!

7:06PM PST on Nov 16, 2010

Thanx for article.

2:08PM PST on Nov 15, 2010

wow...judgmental and arrogant with a way to tell the world your very judgmental and arrogant opinions of your past friends and family...no..you haven't been a good friend but at least you have a very good friend who told you the truth and you still have an opportunity to change, to repair some relationships. i hope you are successful in this as you have a difficult path now to travel to attempt to repair the damage. be advised that everyone may not readily accept your mea culpa...it might take some time and effort on your part to prove to them that you are changing and have changed. good luck...

9:28AM PST on Nov 15, 2010

Wow Lissa! I just wrote a book about this. Sometimes when a person finds joy and peace and happiness they just want to lavish their loved ones in it too. But each of us come to our own peace, joy and happiness in our own time. If your friends and family say they're happy 'as is' it's a challenge to sometimes see them still exhibiting behavior that could be holding them back and keeping quiet doesn't seem loving, it seems selfish when you feel like you know the answer.

I have to tell you my character in my book and I personally still struggle sometimes with this but as I learn to accept others and enjoy them for who they are and what they bring to the table I find that I'm a lot more forgiving towards myself. The Bible says, "When we juge others we condemn ourselves" and that's great advice rather you're a supremacist or not.

9:26AM PST on Nov 15, 2010

I think you're friend gave you the best advice: just own it. Not like it, not cultivate it, not indulge in it, and certainly not try to get rid of it (try to NOT think about the word "elephant"...right now -- not too effective). Accept that you have this streak and be responsible for it: that it will show up, and when it does and you notice it, you can call yourself out on it.
Trying to get rid of it will (probably) be useless, make you frustrated, and make you in some way not yourself. How can you accept and love someone - or yourself - if you only accept PART of them - or yourself?

7:50AM PST on Nov 15, 2010

Lissa, you have prayed to the Universe, yet the Creator of that universe is greater. Jesus Christ can set you free, indeed. In him are all the treasures of wisdom, and he is love. Search the Scriptures, seek him with all your heart, and you will truly find all that you are seeking, and so much more.

6:12AM PST on Nov 15, 2010

Jesus and the Devil were walking down the street together one day, when across the street from them they spotted a man, who had suddenly stopped to stare at something on the sidewalk in front of him. They watched as he gleefully bent down, picked-up the object and the ran off excitedly with it. Jesus turned to the Devil and said, "I wonder what it was that man found?" To which the Devil replied, "That man has just found a piece of the Truth!" Jesus replied, "Does that not bother you?" "Not in the least," replied the Devil. "I am already making plans to help him organize it!"

Likewise, our own devilish egos can take even out most hard-won truths and quickly turn them to our own self-aggrandizement and consequent delusion. That is his (its) job, and he does it well. His very life and function depends upon his ability to convince us of the reality of our own self-importance, thereby making himself real.

The Light is a gift to be shared, but all too often it is instead used simply to blind ourselves.

3:41PM PST on Nov 14, 2010

Good article Lissa. But this sentence struck me...". I’m totally racially and culturally tolerant." Maybe you should look deeper to see is you're a Supremacist.

As someone who is a lesbian I find the word tolerant tells me a lot about people. Your tolerant, so you tolerate, endure, suffer being with people of another race or culture.

Why not, accepting. Just accept others for who and what they are period. Why not?

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