In Relationships, Undivided Attention is Necessary

My fiancé and I just returned from two days in Yosemite.  It was a wonderful trip – despite the fact that it was raining constantly.  We were able to get a little bit of hiking in – but more important was the time we spent together without distractions.

My fiancé left his phone at home and I had no signal.  We did not bring our computers or iPads so, even though we spent more time driving around the park than hiking, we still had two entire days to dedicate our complete attention to each other.  Though we spend a great deal of time together and we make a point of respectfully listening to one another, the two-day respite from technological distractions was refreshing.

In any kind of relationship, it is important that we set aside time to give our undivided attention to one another.  Even if the topics of conversation are not particularly deep, simply being fully present for one another is invaluable.  We do not often take time to do that these days.  Technology is a blessing in many ways, but it has its downfalls, as well.

Being constantly connected often takes us away from the present moment.  For example, tweeting about the concert you are attending takes you away from the present experience of the concert.  This inability to be present is possibly most detrimental when it comes to relationships.  When we notice that others are not giving us their full attention, we feel as if they do not regard what we are saying as important.  Creating time and space to devote to truly listening to and communicating with others, therefore, is extremely important to the maintenance of healthy relationships.


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Terry Vanderbush
Terry V.3 years ago


Silas Garrett
Silas Garrett3 years ago

I often end up not taking a lot of pictures of things in favor of actually experiencing them. My wife and I just took a long trip, and while we only have a few pictures to show for it, we both had many great experiences together, and it was a worthwhile endeavor (even if we can only share a few highlights.

Kat Eldridge
Kat Eldridge3 years ago

My husband and I spend at least one day a week without the phones and computers. Today we went geo caching, and had a bbq. It allows us to talk, spend time together and connect. It keeps our relationship in balance and reminds us what is important.

Alicia N.
Alicia N.3 years ago

You are right on the dot Sarah, I am very happy for you two.

Mrs M.
mrs m.3 years ago

I agree. Way too much use of electronics in our daily lives, too!

Ron B.
Ron B.3 years ago

My wife now uses ear buds around the house occasionally to listen to audio books. Thank goodness that's all it is. At our age, I thought she was going deaf the first few times I had to yell at her to get her attention.

Mari Garcia
Mari Garcia3 years ago

sounds like a great time. the most important thing in a relationship is getting to know one another as much as possible before making a complete commitment

Rosie Lopez
Rosie Lopez3 years ago

absolutely! thnx

Patricia H.
Patricia H.3 years ago

thanks for sharing

Kenneth D.
Kenneth Davies3 years ago